Tuesday, June 15, 2010

It's Not Me it's You


Tameka Raymond did an interview with Vibe.com and said she doesn't believe in divorce, and that both times she was married, divorce was filed on her. The first time Tameka was divorced was because she was cheating with Usher [click here if you missed that]. So what was the reason her second marriage didn't work out? Tameka explains it all.

Vibe asks Tameka,
Were you ever skeptical about even dating such a big star?

We didn't even get a chance to settle into marriage. First of all when he proposed, I became pregnant a few months later and then I had the baby [shortly] after our wedding. We did in one year what couples do in five. We bought a house, we were combining families with stepchildren and we were promoting Here I Stand after he hadn't had an album for four years. So there were nerves with that and it was so much pressure. Then not having the public support… that didn't help. And you kind of have peer pressure to go to the clubs to prove that you're cool. It was just nuts.

That sounds like a list of reasons for why…

It didn't work?

Yeah.

Clearly. There was no lack of love on either sides. We loved each other very much. I dare to say we love each other very much. [The divorce] had nothing to do with us as people, [but] all the circumstances.
Do you personally believe in divorce?
I do not believe in divorce. Both times I got divorced, it was because I was filed on. [Laughs] I didn't fight for my first marriage the way I should have. I think once you’re married it’s a commitment [even] through all your tough times.

Read the rest of the interview here

35 comments:

deezy said...

Well If you get into a relationship with the person you cheating with, there is a chance it wont work. She just brought bad karma into the relationship. Just wasnt a good start.

But blaming the man seems like like the way to go for women these days. Take responsiblites for your actions.

Shia said...

Um Deezy!

Men do the same thing. They blame the woman for their cheating ways. Plus this is one woman out of thousands and thousands of men that cheat on their spouse for a richer or prettier, or even younger! So don't stick this stereotype on us! Cause the men started first and will always be on the list of not taking responsiblites for their actions.

Yes Boo... you've been served! NEXT!!!

BLUEBUNNY said...

MARRIAGES DON'T LAST WHEN YOU CHEAT AND THEN MARRY THE CHEATER. FOR SOME PEOPLE THEY LIKE THE THE THRILL OF CHEATING, THEN WHEN YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE ON A DAILY BASIS, THEN THE THRILL IS GONE. NOBODY RESPECTED HER BEING A MARRIED WOMAN, LEAVING HER FAMILY, AND BEING PREGNANT WITH ANOTHER MAN'S BABY WHILE MARRIED. THAT WAS SOME JERRY SPRINGER HO SHIT. LASTLY, THE PUBLIC LOVED CHILI AND FELT USHER LOST HIS MIND MESSING WITH HER. ANYWAY YOU LIVE AND LEARN.

Kay said...

Bitch you been divorced twice so clearly you believe in it. She'll marry & divorce again soon.

Anonymous said...

Give it a rest, Tameka. You've had your day in the sun.

Kay said...

Bitch clearly you believe in divorce b/c you've done it twice. She'll be married & divorced again soon.

Anonymous said...

Tameka is deluding herself if she ever thought in a million years that marriage was gonna work. She brought nothing into it but a tribe a kids. Moms wasn't feelin her ushers fans goin ape shit crazy. Hopefully if she gets into another relationship she has sum lessons learned but I doubt it. She hasn't moved on. Move on Tameka .

deezy said...

um, Shia

Im just stating facts. She wasnt a perfect person but she believes she did no wrong. She says that its her former husbands fault for the divorce. She should be a woman and admitt that maybe she was to blame also. As for other women who say "Its not my fault, I didnt file for divorce. He is to blame for our troubles."

So you can get your panties out of a bunch.

TheBarberLady said...

I think this dummy meant literally their fault. As in they physically filed the papers instead of her therefore she is not at fault for the marriage ending, technically. See, I just don't know what to say. It's women/people like this....
How shady can you be? I bet that's the shit she is telling her kids about their fathers, too. He left us yadda yadda yadda never saying she broke their vows and created this impossible situation. Get ready for divorce number 3 and maybe 4 if she's lucky.

TheBarberLady said...

and how are you supposed to ever REALLY trust a female who you know has no problem walking out on a marriage and family as soon as the next best thing comes along?

TruthBeTold said...

whateves ....Tameka you need a relaity check ! Clearly you doing someething wrong when men file divorce on yo azz!
Girl get a clue and learn to keep a man already !

NubianGoddez said...

Why does this heifer insist on being in the spotlight, helloooooooooo your not a celebrity!! your contract as a paid beard and child bearer has fulfilled its obligation. now please go away and raise your kids out of the public eye. your causing massive eyestrain on the general public, with our collective eye roll every time we see yo ass. Ho sit down!!

Anonymous said...

like i said on another board when this all first went down, "how you got him is how you'll lose him." and so it is.

Bee Gee said...

Shia, not so fast, momma. You said men started first, but Eve bit that apple. Where's ANN? Somebody get ANN, please.

Ha, I'm just playin. Sure men cheat more because we're simple and visual creatures. But there are plenty of females out there that'll stray just as quickly. Deezy is on point with hers.

Anonymous said...

She just can't let go of being Mrs Raymond, huh?
I can't see her moving on anytime soon coz its clear she's not over him.

And in addition those kids are all thats left of her ticket to fame and fortune.

But still I wonder what really happened for him to want to get rid of her.

professor X said...

@Bee Gee

please don't drag Ann's self righteous crazy ass in this. lol!!!

Black women out number black men 3 to 1. Which means there are a lot of single/lonely black women out there. so you know there is gonna be some serious cheating going on in our race.

Fo' Real?!?! said...

Personal accountability, much, Meka?!?

And on the topic of who cheats more, it would seem that men do cheat more but that's because they are always getting caught. I know a LOT of women that have stepped outside of their marriages/relationships countless times but their men are none the wiser.

professor X said...

btw, Im not pointing the finger at my lovey black sistas. people cheat for many different reasons.

as for Tameka cheating ass, she jumped on Usher's dick just because his is Usher.

professor X said...

^^ Im meant to say:

*just because HE is Usher..

Anonymous said...

She is clearly wounded by this failure of her marriage. I was really pulling for them from day one because he married his own kind. Oh, well...I think maybe it was too much drama for Usher. She is a strong black woman and boy do we get it from all fronts.

♥Kiki♥ said...

Tameka is too damn old to be playing the blame game. She needs to get some therapy because Ursh still has his mojo on her even though he has moved on. Marriage takes work on both ends and if one is spending all of their time on Twitter acting psycho and shit while the other is out trying to work and make money for the family, then hey, there may be some problems.

She is showing her true colors by continuing to talk about her exes and quite frankly, she is reaching too hard for relevancy. Give it up already.

Anonymous said...

^^^we suffer because we know our own way, have our own minds and do not mind speaking them.

Anonymous said...

Whatever

Anonymous said...

They were doomed before they started. They NEVER should have married. They had all the reasons why they shouldn't, yet, they did.

Anonymous said...

She sure has a lot of time on her hands.

Akatrippy said...

Ummm.....
I won't say who cheated first or who cheat's the most because it happens. The problem is the reason behind doing it.
While married for 24 yrs I cheated and was cheated on. It went both ways.But not at the same time. i don't think. (Umm) We both had our reasons.

(Not Justifying It)

I can recall many times when I Stopped giving him the Sex when needed, I was fussing alot.

(To MEN it's called Nagging)

I was being Stressed as being a new mother, Longing for something different and ect was some of my reason's.
But we lasted the whole 24 years because we kept Family, Friends, Enemies, & Outsider's out of our business / marriage. And that worked from 1985 till March 2010 when our divorce was final.
And we just decided to do something new. But to say the Man or the Woman started cheats first or the most isn't what I would pin point it to be true.

Okay Im lying, He CHEATED FIRST!! lol. Men Do Cheat The Most!! ( lol ) Wait hold up! Opps I cheated First!! I think.
Let me call him and ask him if he cheated first and see if he'll be honest and tell me.. (lol)
Yall hold on till i get back with the finale of this matter.. lol

Anonymous said...

Am I MISSING SOMETHING HERE?!?! Or is it true...folks don't want to HEAR what's TRULY being said...they ONLY WANT TO HEAR WHAT THEY THINK?!?!

Tamkea CLEARLY states that both her ex-husbands FILED FOR DIVORCE, which means that if her first ex-husband hadn't filed...she would STILL be married to her FIRST husband...Tamkea CLEARLY STATES that she didn't FIGHT for her first marriage as she should have...Tameka CLEARLY STATES why her second marriage ended...

So...where is she NOT taking accountability? Where is she being DELUSIONAL?!? She looks like someone who made mistakes...and have learned from them...and have moved on...(at least in public, which is all we're privy to see...and all WE deserve to see)...man...

Anonymous said...

certified used goods idiot. please continue to explain why you dont have custody of your kids by your first husband Ms. Foster... yeah, thought not.

Anonymous said...

I wonder what she meant by

"I didn't fight for my first marriage the way I should have."

She was screwing Usher and was pregnant for him right??

Anonymous said...

Tameka, get off here! @11:47

Anonymous said...

@ 4:02 More like Mankea I wonder who wore the pants in that relationship cuz sure is not USHER.

lilioohpyt said...

This interview screams....I am stilling boning him so I still have hope!

I really wish her the best, I hope she finds and holds on to true love because she is a pretty woman and deserves it.


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Anonymous said...

Sex is so good when you're stealing it. The side piece looks like the prize because they get you at ur best; there are no conversations about household bills, who will pick the kids up, what's for dinner, etc. No, the side piece gets the well dressed, no stress version of you without the demands of a marriage. You sow and you reap.

Anonymous said...

so, you don't believe in divorce, but you believe in adultery??

Anonymous said...

hmmmmmmm, me thinks the real reason for this divorce was perhaps she was just a cover for ole boy. Sorry, something about Usher screams gay to me. I never bought this sham of a relationship.

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