Last month Christina Milian hinted all was not well between her and ex-husband The Dream regarding Dream's lack of participation in raising their daughter Violet [click here if you missed that].
In a candid interview Christina goes into detail about Dream's absentee parenting...
Christina tells Houston's 97.9 The Box
“All I care about is my daughter, and when it comes to the case of parenting and having another parent, I really would like her to have a father in her life."
"I’m not happy at the moment, but I have come to the realization that I have to be 200% mom for her. And it’s not about finances it’s about spending time….”
61 comments:
Well you laid down with dude so who fault is that?you knew what type of guy dream was.Talented guy but skirt chaser
Well, got damn! He left is 1st wife and kids, what made you think he was gone stick around for your child? Just take the child support and HUSH!
You got what you wanted, a PAYCHECK!
I totally agree with her, being a parent doesn't mean to just send money and not be a part of the child's life. I'm sure that the Dream is busy, but if you can take trips to exotic places, go by and spend a day or two with your daughter. How about once a month keep her for a week. Start somewhere in the long run your daughter will be a much better girl, young lady, and lady when it's all said and done. I'm Just Saying!!!
So what! She can find little billy bob another father. She knew what she was getting herself into.
I'm a father and i can tell you it's healthy for a child to have BOTH parents in their life; fuck the money, fuck the person that you are, and it doesn't matter how either of them are as a person.
A child NEEDS two parents in their life growing up. It doesn't matter if they are together or not, it does make a difference in the mental health of a child growing up.
@2:30 and in that same interview, Christina says "my daughter will be calling someone else father" so... Boom! She knows the deal.
But there aint no use in her complaining.
Well I heard something different. The Dream said that he is taking care of his kids and spending time but the only time his kids are going to turn out to notlike him is if Their minds are filled with bad thoughts of him.
Shouldn't she be going down on the Gay Money crew in exchange for studio time instead of rehashing baby daddy drama?
what a nightmare he's turned out to be
It's truly sad when a woman realizes that a while a judge can order a man to support his children financially, he can't order him to be a good father and protector
No foundation.
She started dating the nigga, got pregnant, married him, and was separated...all in just over a year's time.
Next time, try choosing a man and building a relationship based on more than who he is before you allow him to bust seed.
These dumb ass celebs are always tryna heat their life up in a microwave, and then be mad as hell when it comes out tastin' like uncooked shit..
*Yaaaaawn*
Oh, please. Your hooker ass was just looking for a check ANYWAY and you got one so sit down and shut up! If you were looking for a man who was going to be a real father you probably wouldn't pick a dude who left his first wife and kids.
If she wasn't light-skinned with long hair she'd spend most of her time at the welfare office or abortion clinic. She is a GUTTER BIRD through and through.
why is she criticizing her child's father on the radio?
and who is she?
This beaner and her care bear ex need to go away
this man has 3 other children who he does not live with. im sure with traveling and producing he is already spread thin. its common sense. did she think just bc she had a child by him that was going to change? i swear some women are stupid. like their womb is platinum. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE A MAN WITH UR COOCHIE OR ANYTHING THAT POPS OUT OF IT!
Well, should of thought about that before you let that lame bust one in you.
The nastiness of the comments is really alarming. Internet bullies kill me.
She should slam that ugly ass baby.
@ 2:36
You sound like your dick is small. STFU with that child needs both parents bullshit. How about you black men stop having kids and running off. How about that! If you do that then there won't be any discussions about single parent homes. So, STFU. Black men like you are to blame.
Why is everyone on here mad with her. She shouldve known the deal? What? As a MAN, he should want to raise his daughter and be in her life. So because someone is busy and has other children that means you should let them off the hook for being a parent? Im busy, most people are busy, thats no excuse. Whats wrong with you people on here? @4:10 Go To Hell!
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I wonder why dude doesn't involve himself in the life of his daughter? That's strange. Let alone a child w/ Christina Milian.
What else to expect? He is black American of course he is not going to take care of his child. Even with all that money he still doesn't want to take care of his daughter which goes to show it doesn't matter what standing a black American is in he is NOT going to take care or even claim his children. HOW DREADFUL.
@ 4:18
Right after you HIV positive gutter bitch.
Shut up! There are white men who don't take Care of their children.
@ Don color struck ass. shut the fuck up you piece of horse shit
Hey bitch you wanted the 18 month child support, because your career took a dump, you are a golddigger with a kid, deal with it.
I meant 18 year child support plan ^
Black American men hate their children and in turn these same children grow up to be convicted felons or gay. It's a never ending cycle in the black American community. Don't believe me? Ask NYPD Police Commissioner Raymond Kelly.
No sympathy here! Know the man you blow...and ultimately make babies with!!!
And if she cared so much about her daughter she wouldn't put that little girls father on blast to in the public! She said growing up with her father means something to her well, if her dad was all that... she wouldn't have such low self esteem! She let "The Dream" kick her to the curb and now her lips are gettin all chapped up from kissing "Young Monkey's" asses----Let me stop...I'm making myself sick! enuff said!
Didn't she get boot slammed by Nick Cannon too! This bish must be toxic!
THe energy yall spending slamming her should be better spent slamming the nigga who CAME in her. Regardless of how yall feel about Christina, a woman gets pregnant when a MAN ejaculates. He has an OBLIGATION to take care of the child he created. She is obviously doing that. Sending a check doesn't make you a father, it makes you a sponsor. HOw a ni99a can't love something that is of him, made by him (whether accidentally or not) says more about HIM than it does about her.
And the b1tchazz nigs on this site so used to not having a daddy they think his behavior is excusable,. Black folks sad as fuk.
And for the record.. he laid down with her RAW.. if she has to take on the consequences of that act, so should he. It takes 2.
Both of em get the gas face, but I clown her because instead of being seen shopping for shoes or out clubbin with ya girls, be fuckin seen shoppin' for a lawyer to get a custody agreement against his absentee ass.
He thinks workin' and payin' support is being a father and she thinks complaining to tabloids and blogs is gonna form a custody agreement or a devoted daddy outta thin air.
But that's what happens when you fuck a bum nigga in exchange for tracks, let him nut all in the pussy, and elope widdem before you can even find out what he's all about. Boo Hoo
TRICKS and JUMPOFFS shouldn't be ALLOWED to speak on REAL ISSUES regarding REAL WOMEN that get caught (In These TYPE of Scenarios...) IN EARNEST -- IMO
Fame-CHASING and MONEY-Hungry TRICKS and JUMPOFFS are getting WTF They WANT-n-DESERVE Though... They wanted a BABY FOR MONETARY PURPOSES and THAT'S WTF They Got (YUP...)
Soooo STFU and SPEND YOUR MONEY (Becuz You've EARNED IT!!!)
@3:57 - it's still no excuse, because Diddy finds the time to spend with all his chirren and he's just as busy as the dream, if not busier.
No. He's not "father" material and never was. I also believe he told Christina to have an abortion and she said no, so it is what it is.
At least she's getting more than $2600 a month in child support. Allison is probably reading this and saying "Shut up bitch, at least your ass is PAID for the next 18 years. I gotta deal with a trifling ass snake and his piglet looking wife to get my little scraps."
Maybe the trick should carry around some condoms since she is so concerned about the type of father her child has at the moment. She knew she was screwing a moral bum and she didn't care. I bet she still practices unprotected sex.
The comments towards Christina are REALLY, REALLY sad. What's most interesting is if she was an absentee mother and he was the custodial father, everybody would still go in on her. It's really a sad commentary on how fucked up our views are on parenting roles and how we excuse men on their responsibilities.
HEAUX GET A LAWYER!
The reason for the comments toward her is because she is the one complaining and the one speaking out. 99.9% of the people do not personally know Dream, yet we all knew when they first came out as a couple that things weren't going to work out. History repeats itself...a zebra can't change his stripes.
If anything we have sympathy for the child. The child didn't ask to be born, nor have the parents she's got. We aren't getting on Dream too much because we already expected this. This is a side we have seen already. So out the gate Christina looks like the fool.
You can polish and shine a piece of shit, but in the end it's still a piece of shit!
@ 7:01 i agree. i mean he did marry her (matter of fact i think they had TWO weddings) so he must have felt something for her (for those hollering about her f*cking for tracks smdh)...sadly, christina got a bum. it happens. live and learn...i know she want her child to want to know her father like any normal parent would. but it's obvious dream has checked out and too basy sticking up for ww who call black folks n*gga. she might as well face she needs to wash her hands of him don't worry he will regret it like all deadbeat dads do when they turn old and grey.
anon @7:12 said - You can polish and shine a piece of shit, but in the end it's still a piece of shit!
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Honnneeeyyyyyyyyy, PREACH!!!!!!
I honestly believe that Christina wants REAL LOVE, like most women. I believe he sold her a bill of goods and she fell for it.
Now with that said, she needs to keep everything said about this man to "No Comment", collect her child supports and start working on her ACTING CAREER!
All this chile do is take photographs with Violet and shit. Gurl, GO GET SOME WORK!!
@7:19 - Every female artist since the inception of music has 'fucked for tracks". This isn't new. It's old news.
Christina did NOTHING wrong in getting with a man that can write music for her and help with her career. It's only when she got pregnant that he left her just like he did Nivea.
Unfortunately, men like him ain't shit and you need to keep it moving.
she KNEW what kind of nukka he was b4 she lay down with him. if she didnt, that makes her a str8 up-hoe...how u lay down & fck raw..b4 you know the mf well enuff to know if they are responsible or not.
so christina...when yall were kickin it..was he spending time with his OTHER kids THEN??? If not..that should've told you something.
GTFOH with that "woe is me" b/s.
You are NO better than his first baby momma..so instead of whining on radio/media etc...invite 1st baby mama to lunch and cry on each others shoulders.
trick
Typical woman. If he wasn't paying child support (Which I'm sure in this case is enough that Christina doesn't have to work) we would hear about how he is a deadbeat. He has to provide for himself and his daughter, so as an entertainer and producer with a limited amount of time to be at the top of his field, he has to be away. Long story short, she should be ashamed airing him out like this.
Her little girl is cute!!
I guess I just see it differently. I never heard her say that she wanted him back. I just saw a mother who desperately wants her child to physically be a part of her father's life. Everyone keeps saying. "That's what she gets!" Maybe she does deserve him cheating on her. Who knows? Who knows what he told her---afterall, he did marry her. I don't necessarily agree with her putting him on blast, but maybe it's a last resort to get him to take care of his responsibility. His responsibility doesn't end at sending a check. His responsibility includes loving, nurturing, guiding and rearing a the beautiful human life her HELPED make. Moreover, the vitriol spewed towards the responsible parent in this case is backward to me. Just sayin'.
Christina does work. She has The Voice gig, her music career and a slew of straight to DVD movies that she's getting/gotten paid for. I think it's safe to say....she's making it.
@8:41 - then she needs to do BETTER. She needs to get a Plan in place. Fuck it, she might as well call up Kris Jenner and let her manage her.
Kris help put Lala's badly built ass on the map, so I'm sure she can help out someone with REAL talent.
Amen @ 2:36,BeeGee,you got it twisted. It takes two to make a baby and it takes two to get married. Bum niggas dont marry a chic famous or not if they dont feel it. Dream didnt marry her cause she was blowin' up the charts with his music either. That nigga felt a certain sort of way about her and changed his mind. So she got the prize of a beautiful child and cutting a check for the child aint nothing to him. This aint baby daddy drama,so mama got every right to tell it like it is. If you didnt grow up in a 2 parent home you just may not have a clue how important it is. So if thats the case, dont speak on what you dont know.
@ELove - co-sign.
i'm a teacher and i can tell you first hand that little girls need their daddy's as much as little boys. I see little girls doing whatever they can for male attention. the bottom line is that he should love his daughter much more than he hates his ex-wife. he needs to stand up and be a man. MEN DO THE HARD SHIT!! its so easy to write a check---especially when you've got the money. the hard part is creating time in your life for your child!! millions of single mothers do it every day!!
@ 8:40...I get your point..but check what I said.
This negro had kids BEFORE Christina and he had this baby. A great indication of how he will treat new kids...is how he treats EXISTING kids.
Christina saw how much time he didn't spend with kids who were already here...but she still agreed to have unprotected sex. Did she think just because SHE had his child..he was going to change into father of the year?
I'm NOT saying he's right...I agree..men should be there for their kids. What I am saying is..he wasnt there for any of his other kids..she saw that BEFORE she had her baby...now she expects him to do an about face?
If that makes sense to anybody..I'm selling the Golden Gate Bridge..for only $19.99 plus s/h.
Um I'm not EVEN a Milian fan but let's get the facts straight...Dream and Nivia were divorced when he got w her & Nivia was claiming lil Wayne by the time these two were dating. Furthermore they were married before she had this kid, so what the fuck are y'all talking abt. As a matter a fact Nivia even went on record and said he was a good hub and dad while they were married!!
First y'all sound redic going in on her, yeah yeah their shit is ragged as all get out but just like she laid down w him he did the same and when u fucking without a condom or any form of contraception there is a 50/50 chance u will get pregnant! To sit here and try to negate his role by throwing her under the bus is REDONKULOUS!! This ninja need to spend as much time as he can w all his kids! He was actually in Europe at some of the Watch the Throne concerts...time he coulda spent w his kid(s). & fuck all that he coulda been working, kids are work too! & the muffugga up top talking abt the one dude saying u need 2 parents...HE'S RIGHT BITCH IT DOES TAKE TWO, BUT ONLY SIMPLE ASS BABY MAMA W NO FATHER IN SIGHT WOULD ARGUE THAT!! Just like men (I work w a white girl that talks abt how her dad that did nothing for her and her sibling when her parents divorced, so it not just us) in general need to stop having kids they dont want to raise; females need to stop having babies w men they KNOW don't love them so they def don't want to have kids w you. Wake up black ppl & stop playing the blame game...handle ur shit dam!!
Waiting for a twitter response from Gwyneth Paltrow in defense of Dream's absentee parenting.
Whatever, they BOTH are wrong. She was wrong to expect that nigga to not treat her like he treated the other baby mama's he got, even though he married her, and he is wrong for not taking the time to spend time with the child he conceived. Now I need her to shut the fuck up and stop trying to generate sympathy, it never works.
@4:50
You're sad. You sound miserable,unloved, and uneducated. Poor thing...
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don't know the whole story, but love how pics show her with her little one all dressed up cute as a button - says something to me...
WEIRD... how is it that the previous posts posted at 11:15 PM, 11:44 PM, 11:14 AM, 1: 56 PM, 3:12 PM, 11:16 PM ????????????
Hey Christina, is your sister STILL a weed-head? Just checking, because if she's watching little Violet she's not a good role model for your child dear. Oh, and if the Dream left his first wife and family, what in hell makes YOU think you got something special to keep him? There are younger women out there who ARE going to take you and your daughter's place. I do feel sorry for your daughter because she didn't ask to come here. Just keep your weed-head sister AWAY from your kid.
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