In a recent interview Nia Long acknowledges negative public opinions about her choice to remain an unmarried mother and explains that marriage just isn't a priority for her...
Nia tells Essence,
'I’ll be at home with my man, having a perfectly loving time, and I’ll see all these comments on some site about how wrong I am for not being married.'
'I don’t feel less loved or less loving because I’m not married.'
'Marriage is not a priority for me. I’m not saying I’ll never do it; It’s just not where we are as a family,'Nia Long has two sons, 10-year-old Massai from a previous relationship and 8-month old Kez with current boyfriend, professional basketball player Ime Udoka.
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Get married because you want to not because of others. I agree with this
ive never seen any blogs talking about her being unmarried,but whatevs.
if u live your life trying to please others,you will always be miserable.
If it's not a priority for her husband NOR Nia- IDGAF. Now were she a bird waiting around WANTING to get the nuptials knowing that her man wasn't down for it yet kept yapping and whining about it- I could see where the criticism arose from. Otherwise, please don't act like marriage is the sanction for others not be dirty and untrustworthy....
GO ON GURL!!! LOVE ME SOME NIA!!! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOU'RE FAMILY AND REMAIN UNFAZED...THAT'S WHY IT'S CALLED YOU'RE LIFE...
Bitch please,that was the most attention her ass got in years.I still think her publicist blew that shit up.Most Yt folks couldn't tell Nia Long from Sanaa or Tarijn(sp?)
Gabrielle Union only stands out becoz of Wade.
Only actress with mainstream recognition is Beyonce.
Fact: Do you know what 99% of the Black Men who end up in prison have in common? No, it isn't poverty, social status/class, age, education levels.... It is the fact that all of them come from single parent broken homes with no fucking father. You can justify it all you want but tell that to the kids who grow up without the toolbox provided by a 2 parent household to become fuctioning adults and end up in the pokey. Maybe not her kids because she is a millionaire and class can keep your ass out of jail in this new Jim Crow system we have in this country. But for all of you who are not and plan on doing this stupid shit. Start saving now for when you eventually get that call 'Ma, I need Bail money?'
I believe in the institution of marriage. I believe in making declarative statements, promises, and following up my beliefs with action. It's not about a wedding. It's about him loving me, and me loving him so much that neither one of us is shook by declaring it legally before society.
Also, I do feel that marriage, as a declaration of one's heart and intentions, forces folks to own up to their shit. He's marrying me because he KNOWS that I'm the best he's ever going to get. He's not holding out for better or shook by the commitment of marriage. Same for me.
And frankly, as a girlfriend I don't do wife-type shit. I've been a great girlfriend, but have never done the things that I'd do for my man as his wife. I'm saving that for marriage. I'm saving the extras for marriage like some sex tricks and taking full responsibility for him body and soul. Why? We've never made any formal promises. Why would I give my all to him and he hasn't even put his name on it?
That's for marriage. Everything else is PLAYING house.
The only folks who demonize marriage and reduce it to just being "a piece of paper" tend to be the ones who can't get someone to marry them, are committment-phobic, or are in relationships that aren't strong enough for marriage.
'Marriage is not a priority for me"
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This would explain the 72% unwed black women single mothers out of wedlock percentage.
As a woman marriage should always be priority. I will admit that I am currently single but was previously on the verge of getting married and had every intent of marrying my first love. You find the right person you get married. If you have a child you need to get married.
black American women will not admit it. Most will say oh I don't want to get married or marriage is not for everyone. HA! The real reason is (drum roll please)........
No one is proposing to you! Marriage is not up to a woman it is up to the MAN! If I am ever in a relationship with a man (African man) and we are out and someone asks me why aren't you married. The first thing I will do is look to my boyfriend and then say ASK HIM! Ha. Put him on the spot and let him know that he is fully responsible in making that decision.
White women, Asian women, Jewish women, African women, Indian women look at how many of them are single mothers? Not many. Especially when you put the numbers side by side. Notice in all of the groups I just mentioned the women are generally submissive to the men. I am an outspoken and stern person but I will admit I like the idea of a man telling me what to do. I like to go shopping with my man and I show him a dress and he says "you can't wear that". I like to cross the street with my man he grabs my hand and directs me to stand in a certain spot. I like when we are out and my man gives me a look and I know it's time to go. I LOVE IT. My ex-fiance did all of these things. Black American women will see this as being 'controlling' when it reality is being PROTECTIVE like how your dad is protective. LOVE IT. Love dominant men-- African men are dominant but their marriages last.
In any event, I respect Nia and think she is attractive her talent is nothing to rant and rave about as such I am not a fan of hers.
I really don't care about this idiot... Her giving the milk away for free doesn't depreciate my stock so she can shack up all she wants! What a friggin fool...
Where is cns raggedy ass talking about everyone should be married b4 kids. Fucking jackal.
These thirsty hoes killing me with this long ass comments....go write a damn book. Go get married....when that nucca leaves you for a younger version you're still gonna be just another baby mama. Call it ex-wife if you want....you still a baby mama. Then have the nerve to bash someone else for their decisions. Fuck off. Who the fuck are you people...the moral police. FOHWTBS
Fuck what people think. As long as the two of them have an understanding and they're both on the same page, fuck what anybody else thinks.
Mind ya business.
Soho, bitch if you like being treated like a slave then take your ass back to Africa. This is coming from a Black American woman who is married. My husband better not try and treat me like a child. I don't play that submissive shit except in the bedroom where it belongs.
Only actress with mainstream recognition is Beyonce.
12:37 PM
Oh Dear. I uhmmmmm hmmmmmmmmm.
Just have a few of these _/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/
When it comes to the issue of gays, bible thumpers always come quoting the bible but when it comes to sex before marriage and babies out of wed lock, I can't ever seem to find bible thumping or bible quoting, why is that?....
@12:38
Preach!! Co-sign your entire comment.
If you have children, it is in the best interest of the child to have mom and dad in the home, married. Period. I'm talking about two people who love each other and are positive role models for the child. If you're in an abusive relationship, then marriage is not for you and could possibly exacerbate your problems.
I've always liked Nia Long. I'm not sure why a woman would choose to be a single mother if she has a man in her life who loves her and her children. What is a higher priority than family?
Soho, bitch if you like being treated like a slave then take your ass back to Africa.
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How about you tell your black American men to stop vying for my attention? When they come around me they step it up several notches. They know better then to talk to me the way they would talk to you. I make sure that they KNOW. I guarantee you a black American man would 'wife me up' within 6 months. African women have no issues getting married it's the black American women. It's not being a slave it's being a doting supportive wife. THE MAN TAKES THE LEAD. @ 12:56 I am giving you your bible quote
Gen 2:22
Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The MAN was created FIRST. The MAN is the provider, the MAN is the foundation of the family. The man should be dominant. I will admit I messed up with my ex-fiance and I regret it because he is the BEST MAN I will ever know but at least I was blessed to have someone like him in my life. He was just awesome, stunning a miracle of sorts. Anyway enough about me. You are NOT married with that bad attitude of yours
@12:49
Wow, bitter much?
"Marriage is not a priority for me."
Translation:
"I am not signing that prenup that entitles me to $3 after 10 years of marriage"
V...
"Marriage is not a priority for me."
Translation:
"I am not signing that prenup that entitles me to $3 after 10 years of marriage"
V...
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Lol!
@Soho at 12:44, correction the rate of OOW babies for black women is now at 80%. Unfortunate but true.
While I do understand and possibly agree with some of the points made against Nia's/ her hubby’s decision to not legally marry, my point is, from a NON-black/minority standpoint of "how BLACK males/females turn out when the parents are unwed" perspective... re: these white folks (cause you just KNOW there's gonna be comparisons to the "immaculate YT", smh)...what's the excuse for them having some of the highest divorce rates after they think they’ve had their picture perfect union?? What's the excuse for their offspring (especially, the YT females) having just as many "daddy AND mommy" issues as much, if not MORE, that those of the black race???
Don't get me wrong, as I understand that if you're "playing house" why not just make it official but if BOTH of them are content with just having a union in their hearts (keeping in mind the fact that marriage was ultimately a man made idea in order to gain property, etc.) then who are we to judge their choice??
As I said before, if one of them is wanting something different and they are BOTH aware of it yet not doing anything to resolve it- I'd understand the censure. But, honestly, aside from the privileges granted by law, what difference does it really make if they don’t want to go “mainstream” with their union and they’ve been thriving from their situation??? And please don't let the "Holy roller” posers standing on their soap boxes about marriage yet doing their own dirty in other respects (thinking their "safe" LOL) come in here talking about how it's "in the bible" cause if you do, first and foremost, ya asses best be virgins (and NOT "technically" either) AND planning to stay that way UNTIL marriage, as well as, strictly following all of the other 10 Commandments. Otherwise your argument is quite invalid.
Kind of reminds me of people who only want to bible thump when it comes to homos yet stay having premarital sex, stay being gluttons (overweight/overeating/drinking/drugs), stay being vain (i.e. hair weaves, relaxers, make-up, extreme working out, plastic surgery, any sort of unnecessary body maintenance/enhancements), stay gossiping (i.e being up on a site like this, mind you), stay blasphemous, stay cheating, stay engaging in idolatry of anyone OR anything aside from God, etc. yet feel entitled to be "the enlightened one" when it comes to a "sin" that they think they're "excluded" from.
The only reason why Nia Long is single is that no man is asking her hand in marriage; End of story!
...and 12:49PM summed things up, perfectly!!!
12:51 Co-sign
Personally I like going to the movies alone, shopping alone (I've shopped at Walmart or Target) lol Those are the only two places that I like doing by myself.
@1:24 WOW! Thanks for the facts. Isn't that daunting CNS? You know I like you CNS!
@Soho,
Bitch, Black men do not step to me any kind of way, either. I don't know why you choose to believe that all Black American women are desperate and put up with anything. Clearly you watch too much reality tv. You are delusional and have an inflated sense of self. I'm starting to see why your ex-fiancé left your ass. Meanwhile, I will be relaxing at home with my loving husband later while you continue being bitter.
Mia you fly as hell so do you. I also think Halle Berry copied your style in the beginning but she later crossover.
A six year old Florida rapper, Albert Roundtree Jr., has released a music video for his song titled 'Booty Pop' that even he can't watch.
http://au.launch.yahoo.com/features/article/-/14151614/childs-rap-/
@12:45, I still don’t get why you are so angry. Wouldn’t you agree that black children should get the same financial protection under the law that other children get? My forefathers fought with their lives for black children to have the same rights as other children. Now that the laws are on the books, why do you feel that black children at not worthy? There are certain laws in this US that protect children born in wedlock. Unfortunately the same laws do not apply to OOW children. Unless the mother can afford a shark type lawyer she will not get the same accommodations. This is the law. These laws were in place before either of us was born. If you don’t like the laws then rally with like-minded people and have the laws change.
I think you get immense pleasure in see black children suffer. Correctly if I’m wrong. And if 80% OOW births is so great why is it leading the black community into more poverty? Black women are already at a disadvange because the men we love HATE US, so why bring an unwanted (from the fathers’ perspective) child into the world when you don’t even have enough money and resources to take care of yourself.
I really think that some black people don’t think that they are and their children are worthy of a good life.
@12:38 Real talk. When blacks figure out that morality and a 2 parent, working home are what creates healthy, happy, productive children; perhaps black people will get themselves together.
Nia Long is talented, rich and beautiful. That affords many advantages that your average woman does not have. I'm happy that she is happy but I believe the only reason why she is saying marriage is not a priority because no one as ask her hand in marriage. I believe that she is a lovely and loving person and if her man asks her to marry him we will see a beautiful wedding.
Get married because you want to not because of others. I agree with this
12:22 PM
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Thank you,guys have been saying this for years no matter how many babymommas we have;-)
@Sugar82
Have you been to Ohio or Minnesota Lately?!!?
There a TREMENDOUS AMOUNT of YT Females w/ multiple kids by Black Dudes and THOSE Black Dudes are Either In Jail, Dead from being Shot Up (DOPE Boyz...) or Absentee Dads aka NEVER Had any INTENTION of Being with The YT Females (In That Capacity Though...)
I Just LUV Nia Long (ALWAYZ Have Though...)
Every Black Celebrity should be more like her which is IDGAF About what the Public thinks about HER LIFE (YUP...)
I Mean Seriously HOW can ONE Truly Enjoy their life by "Living by OTHERS Standards" Though o_O
Loves Nia, what goes on her personal life is her business. Who is a stranger to tell Nia, a grown ass woman how she should and shouldn't live her life?
@Soho, I find you higly annoying. Why are Africans so self-righteous, pompous and judgemental? Bitch you're not married your damn self, all that bragging and boasting you're doing on here is pointless. Probably because of your stuck up attitude why your ex-fiance left your ass. How are you on here bragging when your ass ain't married? Bitch shut your judgemental, generalizing ass up and STFD!!!
As long as she not hittin' ol boy up for that child support.These babymommas always talking about being proud to be a single parent but they wanna put a nigga in jail for child support.Thirsty heffas.
^ A few typos... *in and *highly
It's HER pussy and if she wants men to jump up and down on top of her, without marrying her, then that's HER problem. Married women have to part their legs like the red sea for their husbands to enter them, and single women have to do the SAME thing, NO difference. I'm married and I regeret the fucking day.
Nia Long was in BellBivDevoe's "Do me" video.I wonder how many times did she let Ronnie,Mike and Ricky hit that?
Amen @ 12:49pm!
LOL @3:01
Why wouldn't a woman want to have the same last name as her children and the man that helped create them? Why would they be committed enough to have children together which would join them together for life, but not show their committment to each other?
People who don't like marriage have never been asked for their hand in marriage.
Period,.
have an inflated sense of self. I'm starting to see
why your ex-fiancé left your ass
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This is true but at least I can admit it! It didn't work out because of my quirky personality, people call it snobby but I call it being unique. I will give it to you for pointing that out but that doesn't mean you can use that to belittle me. I haven't done anything to you.
Probably because of your stuck up attitude why your ex-fiance left your ass
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I've already admitted this. See I can tell the truth even if it makes me look bad and I am NOT pompous. I am just brutally honest which people will always hate on. Africans are bold and beautiful that is just in the nature of Africans pure plain and simple.
WTF? A woman like Nia Long seems like she would have PLENTY of options given her status and social standing, people who say she has never been asked for her hand in marriage are so full of shit... How do you even know? Have you asked her? If I had to guess, she has more suitors than anybody writing comments up here.
Personally, I respect her choice. Marriage does not HAVE to be a priority, unless you believe in that. If you believe in marriage, go get one. If you don't, then don't get one. It is as simple as that. And whoever said a woman's top priority should be marriage should get their head out of their ass and get with the times...not every woman wants to be married and not every human beign is marriage material. End of story.
*being
And fyi, in times like these a woman's top priority should be her own personal happiness and independence...then after that comes career/work, family, relationships/marriage. Not in that particular order, except for what I mentioned first.
If you end up getting a divorce your still going to end up single, dating with a pain in the ass childs father. No one is going to want here your ass use to be married. Most marriages end in divorce with depressed, suicidal kids.
@SLOWHOE YOUR COMMENTS REGARDING AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN REEK OF JEAOUSY!!!
Being witness to the state of black marriages today, especially celebrity ones, I'm with her fuck marriage... if we living as man and wife in God's eyes and the children are loved - that's all that matters.
Plenty of dysfunctional homes with both parents - in today's society marriage really doesn't mean what it used to.
@3:13PM SAID:
People who don't like marriage have never been asked for their hand in marriage.
Period,.
Lies, Lies, MF-ing LIES!!!
You don't have A CLUE (WTF You're talking About...) It's OBVIOUS You're A TROLL Becuz that SHYT is NONSENSICAL Though (YUP...)
How could anyone be so gorgeous! Ugh..She makes me sick :) Lol.
God bless you and your sons.very cute family.
just because she is not married does mean that she is a single mother, obviously they are both raising their son under one home.
if people took the time to understand their partner instead of rushing to get married for the glitz and the glamour and because society says they have to be married, then they can be unionized as one for life instead of hating each other 5 years down the road ending in divorce.
She can do whatever the hell she wants, 90% of married folks are unhappily married anyway. being married don't mean shit, all the married women I know both family and friends are miserable as hell married to trifling ass niggas, that don't take care of their responsibility, they are married in name only, its the image so many covet and rush to take part in the fantasy only to wake up to a nightmare. most of my married friends borrow money from friends and family cauze their husbands abuse their asses financially, marriage is fast becoming an archaic relic that will soon become obsolete. Matriarchy will render marriage useless like it should be. if a woman wants to get married that's a choice she has, it should not be the gold standard to which all women are held up, if married was so fucking great the divorce rate and unhealthy adults churned out by these unions would not be so damn high.
Lol, there are ALOT of adult bastards, baby-mamma's and bitter wives on this site! Society has allowed the bastard society to thrive simply because ya'll outnumber the rest of us who were born into unified families! Fuck a fractured family, I'm going to keep the tradition of marriage going!
I grew up in a two-parent household seeing my parents fighting all the time and simply staying together for my sake. I think it would have been much better had they have separated sooner. Just because there are two parents doesn't make it the ideal household. Further....the same people in here preaching about having two parents in the household are probably against gay marriage.
She looks happy....so why the fuck do ya'll care?
It is different to choose not to be married and you are a grown ass woman with your own shit. She has a relationship with the men and she can afford to take care of her children.
The real problem is people having kids that are crazy and broke.
Men are not stepping up so women must adapt with adoption and other alternative family options.
But really what should women do when your soul mate and your biological clock seem to be on different schedules
@7:03pm
So what do you want a standing ovation and a parade???? Do you marriage is not for everyone. The way you come off thank GOD I'm not part of your bitter sounding family. Get help for your mental health issues you sound like a rotten BASTARD!!!!
Lol, there are ALOT of adult bastards, baby-mamma's and bitter wives on this site! Society has allowed the bastard society to thrive simply because ya'll outnumber the rest of us who were born into unified families! Fuck a fractured family, I'm going to keep the tradition of marriage going!
7:03 PM
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AND THE BEST COMMENT OF THE DAY AWARD GO TO 7:03!
BRAVO! (Not being sarcastic btw)
@8:19
Shut up! 7:03 had the best comment by far.
8:46pm
Shut the fuck up!!! Nubian made the best comment by far. Eat shit!!!
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Nubian Godless, stop anonymously co-signing yourself. It's tragic, boo.
i love nia! so pretty!!!
Um that would be 7:03 going HAM with all the self co signing...dam we get it YOU liked what YOU said! Now go make some friends so you don't have to keep saluting your own obnoxious uneducated reDONKulous comments!
On topic: do u Nia!! Shit I know a great deal of ppl who grew up in dysfuntional 2 parent households and are going to be in therapy for the rest of their lives. It takes love and family support (not financial just positive reinforcement of family) to raise a loving, caring & productive member of society. It doesn't matter what titles (married/unmarried) you wrap it up in.
Lmao! Nia will end up just like Kim Porter! JUST like Kim Porter. Popping those ugly babies out didn't Kim anywhere but the title of "Baby Mama" I swear black women ain't shit!
@ 10:56 The difference between Kim and Nia is that Nia has her OWN money. She don't need that nigga....
Black women ain't shit, huh? If either a white person or one of those self-hating black men who only dates white women. Gtfoh.
@10:56 SHUT THEE FUCK UP with that reach of a comparison! Really Nia Long's situation is like Kim "I'm pregnant at the same time as my baby daddy's other bitch" Porter??? Put those fucking bath salts down before u fuck around and eat your own face off!!
7:03 cosign! I weep reading all these comments bashing marriage. Sure there are a lot of people who marry just so the woman can say "I's married nah" but that isn't the ideal. A happy healthy marriage should be the goal of any man or woman who wants kids. Couples shouldn't have kids without being married if it can be helped. Sure, things happen, but to have multiple kids on purpose while shacking up or just kicking it like Lauryn or Erykah is ultimately bad news for the kids and for the fans that follow and emulate that person.
Nia thinks she should be able to pose pregnant and nude and repeatedly crow about her OOW kids and that readers shouldn't be able to comment? FOH That stank attitude will find her a has been doing Tyler Perry movies just like Gabby if she isn't careful.
@12:09...go have several seats!!! Nia Long can do what she wants to do as long as she is being true to herself and raising her kids to be good people out here. You all "I weep for these anti marriage comments" but then go on a bullshit diatribe about nothing!! Welp guess what we weep for u too, bc fools are pitied! I have friends that have married parents, some turned out good and some turned out all jacked; I also have friends that come from single parent/co parenting households and guess what? Some turned good and some turned out all jacked! Moral of the story is it takes more than a wedding band and 2 married people to raise a kid...it takes a hell of a lot more than that.
So make sure you take your pill tonight bc I shutter at the thought of a fool like you dragging something up to unleash on our society...
Love you Nia! You have handsome sons. I admire you as a black woman being a mother and having a career takes hardwork and dedication. I'm going to watch Love Jones right now
@12:36am
You said it all. Thank you!!!
7:03pm You co-signed yourself at least 8 times. Okay we get it.
@12:09pm Have seat next ot 7:03pm you two are the ones who do not need to have children AT ALL.
@12:09...go have several seats!!! Nia Long can do what she wants to do as long as she is being true to herself and raising her kids to be good people out here. You all "I weep for these anti marriage comments" but then go on a bullshit diatribe about nothing!! Welp guess what we weep for u too, bc fools are pitied! I have friends that have married parents, some turned out good and some turned out all jacked; I also have friends that come from single parent/co parenting households and guess what? Some turned good and some turned out all jacked! Moral of the story is it takes more than a wedding band and 2 married people to raise a kid...it takes a hell of a lot more than that.
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There's so much irony and contradiction within this statement I don't know where to begin.
Marriage is for the Gays.No real man wants to be tied down to just ONE woman!?!?! That's why men cheat.
7:03
Did the damn thang and now you're all mad. Womp Womp.
@12:38 Fact: 100% of the black men in prison have a few things in common; they are GROWN MEN that decided to use poor judgement, broke the law and are now suffering the consequences sometimes with their lives! They have no one to blame but themselves. They knew right from wrong and chose wrong instead of investing in themselves and applying themselves in a positive direction so they must be where they wana be.
Why are all these black non Americans always bashing us black Americans? Hell if things were so wonderful for em where they came from, or if they were so relevent in their own countries of origin wtf come join us ignorant blacks in America? "Idjuts", trick are for kids fyi "they don't see you see you as any better than us. Dog gone it America is what it is on the backs of my ancestors and the tax money ole GW and "dem" decided should stay on these shores. Puleeze tell of some major world contributions any African has ever made? Oh yeah there were those pyrimids and Nubia and Eygpt and all, but I talking within recent history? I missed chapter. I was busy learning about the contributions made by us "ignorant" black Americans in the fields of Medicine, The Arts, and Science. Check it out, you obviously have access to a computer, so use it to educate as opposed to spewing venom. BTW, didn't you get the memo we blacks all share the same genome pool. Whew been wanting write this for awhile now.
Especially for so ho. @5:05.
OK so ho just viewed profile, Soweto, that explains your obvious insecurities. Atleast we had enough strength to over come Jim crow laws long b4 apartheid was outlawed. Just stop with your insecure rants. I think you protest to much, about American black people. Says more about you, than anything.
Ho, I grew up in a majority black American community, "Stevenson Village", Carson, Ca., we all had two parents. I'm gonna need you to stop making these sweeping generalizations. You can not paint a whole group with one stroke. People can come up with stats to support any ole BS to support their twisted views. I am not dumb, nor stupid, so I won't paint all African men in the vain of Ide Amin, our great Presidents father, or any other greedy genocidal African dictator. Lay off my brothers, my sons, my father, yes they have issues, some self inflicted, most of their issues inflicted by a society that is afraid of them.
Lol, there are ALOT of adult bastards, baby-mamma's and bitter wives on this site! Society has allowed the bastard society to thrive simply because ya'll outnumber the rest of us who were born into unified families! Fuck a fractured family, I'm going to keep the tradition of marriage going!
7:03 PM
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And let the choir say AMEN! Yes sir...these little crumb snatchers, fucking their cousins and step siblings (cause yo mammy don't know who planted a seed in her)--------Bastards are they! You fuckers should start a union, I swear! Most of yall can't pay a person to marry your nasty crusty asses and that goes for the men too! Snickers bastards!
LOL at people trying to deflect the attention from 7:03 brilliant comment and putting it on SoHo. SoHo will not be the scapegoat of this thread. 7:03 had the best comment and all you can think of is how much you are tired of SoHo? How about I am tired of this single mothers epidemic damnit. Give the kids what they deserve black American women.
7:03 just slaughtered the comment section, 7:03 did it on them.
MARRIAGE TO INFINITY AND BEYOND. NO MARRIAGE NO FAMILY.
AYE 7:03 in the words of Stephanie Tanner from Full House "You got it dude". You hit it right on the nail. 2 parents homes is the only way to go and it HAS to be a man and a woman.
Wrong! Nia Long isn't better than Kim Porter. They are both in the same boat. Both cocked their legs and reared fugly gremlins. Both have low self-esteem.When was the last time that Nia was featured in a hit movie? (don't say 'Good Hair' because it didn't do that well at the box office.)She is living off that man's money, just like Kim Porter. Keep fooling yourself that Nia "has her own" BULLSHIT! Like I said, she is NO better than Kim! Her, Kim and YOU are in the same boat and don't you ever forget it bottom feeder!
^^I dont think this is a self esteem issue,this is a 21st century issue,somewhere..somehow woman have gotten the idea its okay to have children,then get married. This is not okay.Take it from a 60 year old with 4 kids,and 4 grands....if you start out the race shorthanded...you always gonna be behind. Having children out of wedlock is not OKAY.Keep on with this babies first,then marriage and the dudes gonna keep on not marrying you and taking responsibility. How can we as black women complain about no daddies....when we dont even hold them accountable from day one....ie we give em the sex but dont expect anything more. Marriage is an expectation. If you dont get it first,you gonna be lucky to get it later ...after all the kids come,and he done got another woman to help with that sex . Keep on shortchanging yourselfs young ladies...but dont blame nobody when your purses come up empty.
Nia Long is not married because she is one nasty piece of work. She has such a high image of herself with no evidence to back it up. Most people that worked with her say she has a way of talking/looking down on people. Most people don't care to be around her. She can't hold a man because she is very shallow and bitter. She feels that Halle Berry stands between her and true success. Wrong Nia, the truth is you can’t get out of your own way!
@12:14
I love your comment and I agree!
@12:36am this is 12:09am Nowhere did I say that all children born out of wedlock will fail. Single moms/dads are perfectly capable of raising whole, healthy, happy, intelligent and functioning adults--it's just a heluva lot harder. Parenting is easier with the ideal of a happy healthy marriage to surround and guide the family. Women who say they don't need a marriage or a husband are saying they don't want security for their families and they don't think commitment is important. She and her lover(s) had those kids but didn't make a vow to each other to be there through thick and thin. Of course not every marriage lasts, nor should they. Some people just aren't meant to be. But when two mature adults commit before man and God then make a conscious decision to bring children into that union and rear them for the rest of their lives within a happy and wholly functioning marriage it is a beautiful thing. No amount of bashing or negativity on your part will change that.
Some where way up there someone hypothesized that unwed women weren't being proposed to. Just because that may be true for YOU that doesn't qualify it as TRUTH. I have three children with two men. Both still want to get married and are active co-parents. They provide and support each others children. I don't believe in the "papers" either. Just as they have shown and proved, give the commitment fuck the paperwork. And trust and believe NOT ONE OF MINE WILL CALL NEEDING SOME DAMN BAIL MONEY.
^^^with 2 baby daddies and counting? Don't count on it. You may as well start the savings account now.
@11:57 by the time you have your 5th or 6th child, there will be so many Baby Daddies that you won't know who belongs to who. If any man is asking for your hand in marriage, you had better get to the church on time. What man would walk into your web (day/night care center) with his eyes wide open? You bring a lot to the table; unfortunately, it's nothing more than hungry mouths to feed! Keep dreaming and stay happy.
@12:24am
Don't you worry about 11:57pm I'm pretty sure she's not asking you to marry her. So why are you so pressed??? Just worry about the 10 hungry street urchins you have to feed.
Simply put,SOME married black women think their better than non married women. Sorry,but most of you are up here typing "I know where my man is" "My man is home very night" don't know jack shit. I am in college and all types of married men come up to me and my friends(men and women). Marriage doesn't mean jack shit to most people. I have relatives who have been together for 40+ years and have raised kids together. They never thought of getting married and felt married. They made decisions,worked,went to wedding together,took care of one another and anything else a man and a woman who are in love should do. My aunt and uncle are in their 50's and are getting married. Black people need to fill out paper work if their not married. It's as simple as that. Niggaz don't want to put shit in order.
A man can leave your ass married or not and with these men fucking men on the side,I have decided that this shit is not for me. Hell no. I am not having babies for no dude. I have dated bi men and they want too damn much freedom. All this bullshit talk about people who don't care about marriage can't get someone to marry them is true to some,but not all,so get up off your pedestal. So many married individuals cheat and women say "at least he put a ring on it" What a damn joke. Men don't want to be alone neither and get married. People put that quote on females,but is true to men as well and even more than woman.
8:46 I'm really happy for you I'mma let you finish but I have the best comment so far.
I find it very interesting that most of the comments on here are comparing Nia Long to a poor black women when really she has more in common with rich women than anybody from the ghetto. Is Jessica Simpson's kid going to end up in Jail? Minnie Driver's? Padma Lakshmi's? Seriously, get over yourselves. I applaud her of having the grace (at least publicly), to show she appreciates her life and her family by being positive about where she is. I hope if I'm ever in the same situation I can be as grateful for what I have instead of focusing on what I'm lacking.
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