Mother of two Nia Long cautions against having a child for the wrong reasons...
Nia tells The Root
"I think women need to be responsible before making the choice [to become a parent] and do it for the right reasons. If you're going to have a baby to save a relationship, that doesn't work. If you're going to have a baby to collect a check from someone else, that's not the right thing. You have to be responsible and be able to stand on your own."
143 comments:
Okay cool, now stop having them and go back to work!
AMEN.
Look like she had some work done
...She's right though. There are several young women in my family who opted for out-of-wedlock pregnancies instead of getting their High School diplomas and college degrees. Nowadays, I think that this generation of young women look at pregnancy and motherhood as some game; as they're competing with their friends and relatives to "get pregnant". Sad to say the least.
Hey Nia, tell your cousin Monique P. whats up! (With her fine ass)
Duh...
That is some of the best advice that i have heard from a responsible mother in a while. i sont have any hildren yet tryog to wait and be responsible first. For some reason this generation thinks that having kids out of order and structure is honorable. one thing that i have learn when i was younger was that i have the power to control my fertility i dont leave it up to a man.
Women should not be wanting to have kids period, this should read COUPLES not women a single person should not be contemplating a child at all ! I don't give a shit what those feminists say !
She shoulda added not to cure your onliness either.
I had a girl do that to me. She got my money through the friend of the court. Held my kid hostage in terms of visitation and now the kid is grown and don't even talk to me. Wooooooooooooow.
Why should a woman stand on her own? It takes TWO to make a baby! Why not tell women to create stable, permanent relationships with men before they have children?
I realize that not all relationships last, but at least go into them with the idea of a permanent partnership and work towards that if possible.
I believe in marriage first, then children. I'm old fashioned that way :)
This bitch got her nerve.
Dirty hoe got two bastards by two different men.
Why doesn't her old ass practice what she preaches?
Instead of trying to give advice, why doesn't this pre-menopausal heffa do a screen test and try to see if she can get a bit part in a movie or better yet on Law&order:SVU?
This cheap trick got way too much time on her hands.
@ 9:43 AM / TRUE
Well, DUH!!!
Nia is obviously in a relationship tight. Need a baby sitter girl? Call me 415-738-0938
I wanna be saved.
Take your own advise Ni Ni.
Co-sign Ms. Lee.
You people think that marriage or a "relationship" automatically equals the perfect environment to raise children. Ok, so what happens when people break up or divorce and there are kids involved?
Oh shut the fuck up you high and mighty ACTING slores.
Most of you on here are not married and have babymama's and daddies and not SPOUSES. MOST OF YOU WERE RAISED IN SINGLE PARENT HOMES.
Yeah in a perfect The Cosby Show world everyone would be married and have kids and have PhDs and Juris Doctorates but that aint reality.
The reality is you assholes - including Nia Long's BABY MAMMY BLACK ASS - are hypocrites.
Wait, what? Are there Black bitches in here talking trash about Nia, while their out-of-wedlock little DeVontes and LaKeishas are at school this morning? Shut the fuck up because ALL of you judging Nia have out-of-wedlock children, have been pregnant and have had pre-marital sex. Therefore, you have NO room to talk. Hell, majority of you sucked dick last night from a no-good ass nigga. You're dismissed.
More importantly, women need to make sure that their children will be FATHERED. The prisons are full of young men and women who are lost, mostly because they didn't have caring parents in their lives, especially lives.
That's where most of the children's issues come from. Being unfathered. And as we grow up, our issues come into play, too . . .because we are unfathered, as we broke ouurselves from our Spiritual Father God in Heaven . . . the Father of us All.
No, I'm not talking religion, I'm talking about THE CREATOR OF LIFE, so don't get on my case!! I don't expect everyone to agree, but some people know what I'm talking about. {pokes tongue out} It's called the Father Fracture . . .google it!!
10:02 I agree with you but I also think Nia is full of shit for judging women LIKE HER, period.
SHE IS NOT MARRIED. SHE HAS TWO BRATS BY TWO DIFFERENT MEN.
How can she speak on anyone?
The RWS females, smh. Judgemental as hell but hate to look in the mirror at their own lives. Basically folks can have as many kids as they damn well please; rich or broke, married or single.
Who gives a shit? Personall for me, I am married and my children where products of my marriage WHILE MARRIED; not before. That worked FOR ME but anything could happen. I could divorce, one day what if I have an affair and be on some Maury SHow type shit?
The point is, WHO THE HELL CARES? These bitter ass bitches passing judgement like their lives are a bed of roses. wtfever.
sorry, especially their fathers. A Father is a son's first hero; and a girl's first love.
Women keep having babies for men who are unworthy or not ready to father. True, they should wrap it up, but you already know: MAMA'S BABY, PAPA'S MAYBE! If you choose to get pregnant by someone who is unemployed and broke, then have the baby and try to take the man to court for child support, then that's just plain stupidity on your part. You've got the power to choose, so choose well. Fathers are very important.
@TRUTH BE TOLD I am a single women that wants a child and i am looking in the adoption process just becasue a man always thinks its about money or a way to trap him, your right it should say couple but I rather be alone with a child a be drama free, i can have it alone and i can take care of alone.
@Scruff, RWS bitches always pass judgment on EVERYBODY.
I would like to state for the record it's NOT JUST A BLACK WOMAN THING. WHITES AND OTHERS RACES OF BITCHES STAY HAVING BABY DADDIES. White men are becoming increasingly more TRIFLING with their fatherly duties. Mexican men - believe it or not - are also following suit.
Basically America is becoming a cesspool of lazy, fat, arrogant assholes looking for the easy, coward way out of EVERY SHITuation.
Not a black thing, not a white thing...TOTALLY AN AMERICAN THING. Believe it or not, black and whites in AMERICA have A LOT IN COMMON how they think. TOTALLY A WESTERNIZED VIEW.
10:13, My father WAS NOT my "first love". That actually sounds incestuous. My father was a teacher, a provider, a disciplinarian, a mentor and a confidante.
First 10:16, Just like the typical coon. You come here to divert attention away from BLACKS and mention other races. This is CLEARLY a BLACK BLOG. STAY ON TOPIC.
YALL CAN KISS MY ASS SHOOT I HAVE THREE KIDS BY THREE DIFFERENT DOPE BOYS AND ALL MINE ARE TAKEN CARE OF. HATERS ON HERE ARE JUST PLAIN SAD AND WISH THEY WAS ME. I AM PRETTY AND HAVE THREE PRETTY LIGHTSKINNED GIRLS. I GET OVER 4 RACKS A MONTHS TOTAL FROM MY NIGGAS. YEAH I STILL FUCK ALL THREE OF THEM AND ALL THE DICK IS BIG AND GOOD AND THEY PUSSY EATING SKILLS IS OFF THE CHARTS. YOU HOES STAY MAD.
@ 10:18 THAT WAS CHILDISH. ITS AN ENTERTAINMENT BLOG. YOU SHOWED YOUR INGNORANCE
9:54
So let me get this straight since most of us r the product of single mothers we should continue to create a legecy of hard choices that were not thought out properly. i am not the sum total of my mother choices. we have the power set better struction but now hey r just like men chasing the wrong thongs in life. The hildren r the future and right now they r fked up. Being a hypocrite will be he least of your worries after a couple of hard real years because u r your choices. Parents now days r just selfish and caught up in the moment and the children suffer.
@ 10:18, BITCH, how is anything I said COONISH? WTF? I mention that this is not solely a black woman issue, it's an American issue and that is coonish?
HOE stay the fuck off them balt salts, for real. Clearly you have trouble with comprehension. SMMFH @ this obtuse ass spade.
Co-sign with 10:21!!!!!!!!
@10:19 you just showed your STUPIDITY. lol
Second 10:21, You incompetent, rejected whore, this blog features B L A C K celebrities and topics; NOT White ones. Therefore, your little demented analysis about "other races of women" being single mothers is irrelevant right now. That's the problem with Black America. We always want to compare and contrast ourselves with the "other" races in order to justify when, where, why and how we err. Like I said, stay on topic.
LMMFAO @ 10:19! I aint mad atcha, boo! You're trifling as HELL but kudos to your BDs for taking care of you and your offspring because that is the ONLY way you will EVER get any real money (hoeing).
Great Advice Nia!
10:25, You are a derelict, bum ass trick who cannot COMPREHEND and is now bluffing and explaining what you meant. Typical tactic used by the ignorant. REFUSE to acknowledge when they're wrong or basically just STUPID.
HOE HAVE A COLISEUM FULL OF SEATS and plop your elephantine sized ass ALL THE WAY DOWN.
Another thing we live in america and not swome third world country where your fathering is selling u off for marriage at 12 so be glad and use your choices wisely because a lot of woman and young girl have no freedom of choice. We blow our freedom trying to look and act like men there is nothing cute or profitable about whoredom at the end of the day.
To the person saying this is a black blog and stay on topic I would like to say you do sound dumb. If you really want to get all technical Nia did not say black moms to be, she said women in general. You are very stupid if you think the way you are. She says women and automatically start going off on black women? no, wrong. You are the one who sounds coonish. no shade thrown IJS you sound stupid. So you feel that anytime any one addresses a problem with this country only insert blacks? you are crazy.
@10:19 LMAO!!!!!
10:19 sit your ghetto hoodrat ass down in a corner somewhere. Don't nobody give a fuck about you, your dope boy ninjas or bastard kids!
10:32, Bitch have a fucking seat with your remedial ass. I see more White women with husbands than I do Black women, therefore, I feel like Black women need to take heed to Nia's message more than anyone. We're the main bitches bustin' it open for niggas and getting pregnant. But like clockwork, you bitches don't want all of the attention on your Black asses. Pure dysfunction.
LMAO @ 10:34.
@10:19
I smell a raaaat! Who's proud of having 3 baby daddies, and drug dealers at that? LOLOLOL! If you don't care about yourself (which you clearly don't), at least give your children a fighting chance. Hoodrats are sad creatures. :(
A hit dog always hollers!
Just because some of yoou made th econscious decision to have children out of wedlock... don't get upset that others prefer not to have futureless bastards!
Nia has no room to preach to anyone. She is in the same boat. Two son's by two different men. If she added that she made the same mistake and wanted to teach others not to do so... then her comments would have been a mentoring/learning moment... as opposed to a moment of pure hypocracy.
A child is a gift. many women and mena have lost sight of this fact. They have children for all sorts of reasons, good bad and indifferent. A child should not be born to two people who don't love each other and are not in a marriage. Yes, some marriaes end in divorce. The point is they married and tried to create a united front prior to having children.
Being born to single parents is not excuse for continuing bad behavior. Just cause, your momma, granmomma, aunties, sisters and cousins did it and suffered through it, doesn't mean that you should too. It's call deductive reasoning and common sense.
Also, calling someone uppity, high minded, stuck-up conceited or bougie because they actually want or have achieved a better life, just makes the writer/speaker look like an ass. You are SUPPOSED to strive for and eventually attain a better life.
Now how long did it take for her to reach that epiphany? *eye roll*
So having a baby to collect a check from someone else works, but it's just not the right thing to do???
not to shade you any more 10:19 but why praytell did not one of em want to stay with you?
At the first 10:50, Right, but WHO are you to try to flip the script and judge/preach to Nia and women on here with out-of-wedlock children? So your life is sin-free? You're a virgin? Please. You could have saved your comment because to be honest, NONE of us has ANY room to cast judgment upon another man or woman.
10:50
Amen say it again doing the right thing nouw is looked down on now. All we r doing is reducing an entire generation to accept and that this behavior as normal. i dont know about everyone else but my legacy will have a standing chance.
10:35, you, sir are BIG BROTHER COON ALMIGHTY SUPREME.
It's always the slow, ghetto fags that despise themselves. Pity that your project born, black, confused ass never really had a chance in this world.
Uplifting whites, thinking your own kind is evil or bad...wow....I feel sorry for that bitch that gave birth to you. She should have used that money Leroy gave her for the abortion FOR THE ABORTION and not that knock off Louis bag and spared you a life of misery and pain but hey....there is always an option.
KILL YO SELF, YOU SAD, HATING ASS, SAMBO BIOTCH.
Please do it and we'll dedicate a fb page to yor demise...while spending YOUR EBT card on refreshments.
BUH BYE!
WHY WOULD I JUST WANT ONE NIGGA WHEN I COULD HAVE ALL THREE? THEY ALL MY KIDS DADDIES. SINCE THEY THINK I BE ON BULLSHIT AND I KNOW THEY ON BULLSHIT I CANT JUST BE WITH ONE BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP BE BAD. BUT HELL THE SEX IS GOOD AND THEY PAYING SO WHO LOOSES?
OTAY, 11:07!!!!! Honey boom....you're doing the most.
I would say you are trolling for filth but honestly, you could be telling the truth and you about that life.
Ummmmmm.....I guess as long as YOU FEEL it's ok and you're kids are taken care of and safe....do you.
??????????? (yall why do I feel so wrong saying that)??????
11:03, You are of the devil. Your comment reeks of malice and evil. Please get well. You're dismissed.
@ 10:19 GIRL please their dicks and money ain't gonna be coming around forever better have a plan B in the works
11:07, Whether you're lying or not, my thing is, DO YOU. People are ALWAYS concerned about what someone else is doing with their lives. If you really do have 3 daughters by 3 different men, that has NO bearing on my life whatsoever.
If i can have a child under the conditionand standarxds that i find acceptable to my values then i just wont have any. I not havin hildren for the world it is already over populated the children suffer and learn wrong life habits sending the world into the wrong direction anyway.
11:12, I agree with you.
1. The world is over-populated and too bad to bring kids into. I don't have any children and don't plan on having any.
Why is everyone mad?!
11:03, dont hold back....tell us how you're really feeling?! LOL
@1st & 2nd 9:54 You're real dumb. Do you know what the common denominator is for male prison inmates? A majority of them were born out-of wed lock with no father present.
@11:24 Overpopulation is a myth. If u don't want kids. don't have them. So what.
Black people need to follow the example of the Obama's and do things in ORDER.
1)COLLEGE
2)MARRIAGE
3)CHILDREN
Even if the marriage ends in divorce, at least you went into it with the right intentions and ATLEAST you have an education and will be able to SUPPORT your own children.
Len, Welcome Back. You crawled from under your rock? great. First of all, over-population isn't a myth. The Earth has been expploited for its natural resources to sustain the AMOUNT of humans on it. Do you read? Probably not.
Second of all, the Obamas aren't the only Black family to have married first, attended college and then had children. If you have to look to the Obamas was guidance and example, what does that say about you and your family? Are there no relatives whom you can look to for structure? Oh.
And then idiot bitches like you make excuses for divorces. "Even if the marriage ends in divorce, at least you went into it with the right intentions..." Ho please. If a woman gets divorced and has children, she'll be looked at as a single mother, period.
@11:11 Actually fool, if EVERYONE or a MAJORITY is having "bastards" that does effect your life because it contributes to the moral and social decline of the country.
Take the black urban "community" for example with a 70% illegitimacy rate. That number was unheard of during the 50s & 60s. With that moral decline comes drug abuse, violent crime, poor education and many other dysfunctions that we see in inner cities today.
You only need to examine the black urban "community" and you will see the detriment of having multiple out of wed lock births.
Wake the hell up. That whole "DO YOU" mentality is immature when it effects the lives of innocent children/people. Time to grow up.
It's time for black women to have that serious discussion about the state of affairs with their young women. The topics are: 1) too much drugs 2) too many children in single parent households. So many here identify growing up in a single parent h/h and seem to discount the value of a father figure, if you grew up without one you cannot know the impact he has on the children's life. Speak to someone that had a responsible father figure in the home and you will see the positive effect his presence played in his or her life.
11:43, So basically what you're saying is: ONLY out-of-wedlock children are the cause of society's decay? And children born within wonderful fairytale and bliss-filled marital unions make everything else ok? I guess out-of-wedlock children are the scum of the Earth and deserve nothing, huh?
@11:09 Because you KNOW it's wrong, but you've been "taught" by white liberals to go with the flow.
Think about the kids, not the dumb ass mother. Would you want to be raised in that lifestyle?
@11:43 Nooooo, dear. The world is not overpopulated.
http://www.pop.org/projects/debunk-overpopulation-myth
And I used the Obama's as an example since they are the most popular family at the moment. I can't stand Mr. Obama, but I respect his influence on the culture and HOPE that many young blacks will follow his lead and create a family in responsible order.
@11:47 Out of wedlock children need our help and mentoring more, no child is without potential.
I'm just stating the FACT that illegitimate children have a harder time in life, for many reasons. Studies have proven it.
Study: Crime rates linked to out-of-wedlock births
(PhysOrg.com) -- A study in the latest issue of The Journal of Law and Economics finds a link between out-of-wedlock births and rates of murder and other crimes.
According to the study, in the years from 1965 to 2002, higher rates of out-of-wedlock births in a given year correlate with higher crime rates roughly 20 years later, when members of that birth cohort had become adults. The findings suggest that children born out of wedlock may receive lower educational and other resource investments from their parents, and may therefore be more likely to commit crimes as adults, say the study’s authors, economists Todd D. Kendall, of the consulting firm Compass Lexecon, and Robert Tamura of Clemson University. “While a number of previous studies have found that unmarried fertility is associated with unfavorable childhood outcomes, our analysis is one of the first to measure the long-run effect on crime when these children reach adulthood,” Kendall and Tamura write.
Read more at: http://phys.org/news197644722.html#jCp
12:02 ist comment is for 11:42, my bad
Black women do not hold each other accountable for their negative behavior. The amazing thing is that there was no hue and cry from the black community when Ebony mag. featured Nia (single, pregnant & baring naked belly) on its cover. The cover alone normalized single parenthood and Ebony has always or used to pride itself on being a family mag. Where is all this leading our young people? Our international image is lower than the bottom of the barrel. You have to travel to know that and it does matter!
" If you're going to have a baby to collect a check from someone else"
That the mindset of 75 percent of the black women in this country.
Having Children Out Of Wedlock....
God loves all people, regardless of their origin. That is true regardless of national origin. It is true regardless of biological origin.
There is nothing to indicate that God thinks any differently about a child whose parents were not married than he does about a child whose parents were. He may disapprove of what the parents did, but that doesn’t affect his feelings for the child.
Gold Digger Single Women Who Manipulate Men..
It’s true that some women have “tricked” men into fatherhood and child, but Parents have ultimate responsibility for their children.
12:21 and what is the mindset of 75% of the black males in this country?
ONCE AGAIN, all of you are being high and mighty discussing what is WRONG with black people, speicifically black women. While I do know that WOMEN are the FOUNDATION OF FAMILY UNITS, it's NOT JUST A BLACK THING. Please spare me this is a black blog, etc. This not ONLY affects us! We only focus on it because most of you ARE products of single family homes and/or single parents yourselves.
Instead of CONSTANTLY COMPLAINING ABOUT WHAT FAILURES BLACK WOMEN ARE, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Hell, why are you worried about what the NEXT woman is doing anyway? HANDLE YOUR OWN HOME. If your neighbor has 8 kids and is trifling, how does that affect YOUR DAY?
SPARE ME "My taxes are paying for her bastards!" Uh...hate to break it to ya but a SMALL PORTION of your taxes goes towards welfare. MOST of it go towards salaries, weapons and space travel.
Basically why do you all constantly degrade all black women by the actions of some? Who gives a shit what they do; worry about YOUR OWN HOME and set an EXAMPLE for yourself BY YOUR ACTIONS. If you really want to help, don't become a statistic; DO BETTER, raise better children and break the cycle. WTF is all this complaining going to do especially when most of you are in the same boat and are a paycheck away from being evicted?
TRY SMARTER AND HARDER to better yourselves and WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF. Self esteem comes from within. Role models don't have to be famous and/or rich; be your OWN ROLE MODEL! Real shit!
Anonymous said...
10:13, My father WAS NOT my "first love". That actually sounds incestuous. My father was a teacher, a provider, a disciplinarian, a mentor and a confidante.
10:16 AM
excuse me hon, who was speaking of PHYSICAL LOVE!??!! I was speaking of love because a father teaches a daughter about love and teaches her how a woman should be treated. We get the phrase: DADDY'S GIRL . . what's incestuous about that?
Get your mind out of the gutter. DADDY'S GIRL AND MOMMA'S BOY!!
Nothing incestuous about these relationships because it speaks to love, not making love; your parents are the first people who you love in your whole life . . . so I stand by my statement.
I am Brooklyn and I do approve this message!
Brooklyn, Some Black men and women take the whole "Momma's Boy" motto to a different level. There IS something called emotional incest with some Black mothers and their sons. Some Black mothers enable their sons to be dependent upon them. You should read more. Peace.
I wonder if Im the only one that wishes she wouls stfu. She aint got the lock on single parent hood, is she did she woulda marry the youngest childs pappy. You made money,in movies good for you but shut the fuk up, you sound stupid telln ppl not to do what u did....but wait, u dont say you made a bad decision, having your children outta wed lock...just the rest of us have. gtfohwtbs
each one teach one is a remarkable mantra; however, we must realize unless another asks for information or clarity it just makes sense to teach by example.
Interesting read, thanks
12:55 I feel u.
Im single with no kids and well taken care of,but I have to pay a higher tax. I feel like to have kids u should pay a higher tax and make very mandatory or u will be fined or jailed. Then lets see if we could break this pattern.
Apparently the first marriage didnt work,thats why she didnt marry the youngest father.
12:52pm Gosh I have read some ignorant post before but the crown goes to you. We are talking about community here not just, what goes on in your house. We're talking about the quality of life in our neighborhoods and all the children therein. Most people care about who their neighbors are mainly for safety reasons. We are talking about uplifting, forward planning and support for a better day. Reading some of the posts here is evidence enough to call a national meeting for improvement because we are in serious trouble.
The Hood Rats are out in force today fighting for their space in society. Good luck girls ther's a lot riding on this one. One thing for sure you have the numbers!
1:23, how do you propose that happens UNLESS you take care of YOUR OWN AND TEACH THEM BETTER? Niggas are ALWAYS looking for a role model and a way to put down everyone else.
If the moral fiber in black society has deterioriated, WTF have YOU PERSONALY DONE TO MAKE IT BETTER? WORRY ABOUT YOU. WTF is complaining doing, except voicing your perceived "disgust" on the subject?
You are EXTREMELY jaded in your thinking if you think complaining is going to solve anything. Trying to be self righteous and hold a mirror up to EVERYONE ELSES FACE EXCEPT YOUR OWN BLACK FACE is worthless and pointless.
Black American women arguing about out of wedlock nothing short of HILARIOUS.
^^^
THIS!!!!
@2:14 ITA.
Arguing and passing judgement and aint done SHYT to help the situation.
Acting as if they're so digusted and offering all these "solutions", "facts" and "statistics" but DO NOT INCLUDE THEIR OWN.
Pot, meet kettle....
10:16 You are a LIE.
White women are stay at home moms while their HUSBANDS are the bread winners in the family. They have play dates with their children other cutesy kids as early as 6 months and then their children are involved in every extracurricular activity you can think of. White women, white people, are successful for a reason.Their educated and professionals and are able to multi-task and be wives and mothers as well. Plenty of examples of this. Rachel Ray, Kate Spade, Rebecca Minkoff so many other white women...
Are Casey Anthony, Nadia Suleman, all those white teen moms on that VH1 show, Jamie Spears (britney's sister) and others like them lumped into that edumacated and professional category, Proverbial Snot?
I don't care how much money one has or the creature comforts they can provide - "optional" single parenting is dead wrong.
Each parent has some good AND some not-so-good aspects to their being and I feel children NEED more than one person's influence with regards to shaping a healthy set of values and world view.
Clearly, I'm not advocating placing a child in harm's way for the sake of sharing custody, but limiting a child's exposure to one person's influence is not ideal.
Choosing this path is wrong.
-- dee truth
Bitch stfu^^^
^^ sorry you're offended... NOT!
-- dee truth
^^^
No not offended, you just talk too much.
@2:24
3 out of like how many others? Those 3 examples pale in comparison to the multitudes of single black women out of wedlock okay. And since you're using celebrities how many black celebrities do we know of who are setting positive examples for black youth? VIRTUALLY NONE.
It's really pathetic that the black community has embrace this as the norm. There are so many dysfunctions that have now become part of the fabric of the black community that now we see stereotypes branded as lifestyles for blacks and in addition to this this has led to the surge in racial profiling, racism, and disdain towards all minorities (except Asians) black people have single underhandedly ruined it for other minorities by virtue of neglect.
Was Nia Long in Boyz N the Hood?
@2:39pm
*yawn & stretch* Um, I ain't stoppin' nobody from noticing YOU, hun! LOL
Keep it moving
-- dee truth
@2:40 but why do you care?
So what. AND?
No think first about who you are making children with! It should be your husband... U know the one you believe I'll be with til death? It takes two to have a child a d both patents should be committed to eachother as well as the child...period.
WHO CARES?! SO THE FUCK WHAT!!!!!!! People are going to do wtf they want and there is not a damn thing you people can do to change it. LET THE SHIT GO!
A 48-year-old Volusia County minister faces decades in prison after a jury this week convicted him of raping a little girl nearly six years ago.
Michael Charles Campbell of DeLand faces as much as 60 years in prison after his conviction Thursday on charges of sexual battery and engaging in sexual conduct with a minor 12 to 18 years of age, the State Attorney’s Office said.
Campbell, a minister in Deland and West Palm Beach, lured the girl to a motel for sex by promising her help with her modeling career with a “skit,” prosecutors and police said. The former Daytona Beach funeral home worker attacked the girl when she was 12 and 13.
In December 2006, he picked the girl up in a hearse with a body inside after telling her father he wanted her to do some work at the funeral home.
They delivered a body to Daytona Beach International Airport and as they drove away, he told the girl that she might have to take her clothes off for the skit.
The girl said he told her he “might have to take a look at you first” and pulled the hearse off the roadway. She said she exposed herself.
Then they drove to a motel, where the girl said Campbell taught her how to put a condom on and kissed and fondled her.
They spent several hours in the room and afterwards, Campbell gave her $44, the girl told police.
In December 2007, the girl was taken to a motel for another “skit,” but that time she tried to resist, even though Campbell told her “it was how Brittany Spears and Beyonce got their start.”
@2:54 Actually I don't I just feel sorry for the black kids because the reality is they are groomed for FAILURE. It never fails. I have been on both sides of the coin. I have been around white children and around black children and it's always the same scenario so utterly predictable. White children, Asian children, Jewish children, children of African Immigrants, Indian children will have passports by age 12 FACT. Black American children will not know what a passport looks like by the time they reach age 40.
The disparity is alarming but not surprising.
And to those of you who says WHO CARES it's that type of carelessness that has black people at rock bottom with no way out in sight.
On a brighter note I was reluctant to buy this Rebecca Minkoff clutch/purse/wristlet even though it was on sale at 80% off am I insane?
3:01
WHO CARES? You done said it. Yeah, blacks aint shit, whites are superior. Your opinion is duly noted, Mia Love. Now go sit you ass down and rub your fetid twat wit that RM clutch (bitch, do you even know the difference between a clutch, a purse and a wristlet?..SMMFH @ this wanna be bourgie, fake trick).
@3:07
Um I didn't say anything that hasn't already been said, direct your anger inwards and not at me mmmkay.
FYI I know the difference between the 3 but the item was too big to be considered a wallet, to small to be considered a clutch and had no arm band to technically be considered a wristlet so it was a cross between the 3.
"wanna be bourgie" is that English or ebonics? LOL you meant to say Bourgeois? Sorry hun, Rebbeca Minkoff is not intended for middle class, you do understand that Bourgeois is a french term for middle class right? (I am bi-lingual) Rebbecca Minkoff is a high end brand. Now if you really wanted to be accurate you would of said a Guess which is more tailored for the middle class.
Whew Father in Heaven smh. Okay ima need black folks to get it together. We need to repent and turn back to The Most High because us as a nation cant make it without him. We are truly fucked up because of them curses in Deauteronomy chapter 28. Hosea 4:6 only applies to negros because we are the ones that are truly destroyed as a nation all over the earth. Nia cant say shit but what she said is truth.
Proverbial, you talk an awful lot.
I bet that irritates those in your everyday life, that is IF you have anyone that can stand your pompous, self righteous attitude.
Please just shut up. We heard you the first 30000393985837093 times, umkay?
That's it....good girl...
I would have taken you more seriously had you not curse. BLACK PEOPLE STOP CURSING NOW LITTLE BLACK KIDS ARE CURSING BECAUSE OF YOU ALL!
SMH.
@12:37PM and what is the mindset of 75% of the black males in this country?
A booty call and not a family planning session!
^ this is for @3:22
@3:25
Do you like me? I'm learning to bake cupcakes at the moment I am dedicated to culinary I would share with you but truth is I don't like you.
Okay was that wrong of me?!?!?!
@3:16 Bougie:
Adjective meaning extravagent, often to the point of snobbery. Usually used in relation to the conspicuous consumption of the urban upper-middle class. Dervived from "bourgeoisie"
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bougie
Defines you to a "T" judging by your arrogant tone.
^ forgot to sign in.
@3:22
I am a generous person who loves to give but I only give when i'm in the mood. Many of my friends and families have gotten wonderful things from me. Too bad you're not included.
@3:27
No that is wrong, you need the dividends to back up the title. I currently am not in that income bracket. 95% of my family is 2 steps above bourgeoisie I don't use their finances for my own rep thus I prefer to be independent as I said before I am the giving type not the receiving type.
Not one of you have apologized for all the derogatory comments towards white women, this can't be right.
@ White Flight, I think Proverbial Snot is always looking to be some white man's belly warmer.
Do you have room for her on the plantation? Eh....she might be better suited as a field hand, lol.
Welp, 3:34, I dont engage in bestiality, so her services to sexually please me, I must respond with an earth shattering, NEVER!
She can, however clean my toilets. I have five bathrooms and some of them are not used so if the toilet never flushes, the water gets pretty gross.
@ WF: Do you have an online application process to which LaFonda AKA Proverbial Snot use?
Her EBT card being refilled has her tripping with these delusions of grandure....
@Proverbial Snob,
Bitch have a fucking seat. I guarantee that if your "Internet" fairytale life reflected your REAL life, you wouldn't be on this blog, e-arguing back and forth with people.
I have two baby fathers and was married to the both of them firdt marriage was an army wife for 6 years and we had been together for 8.we share a son and he pays child support.second husband was 5 years and another boy. he also pays child support and loves his son. I went into both marriages wanting a stable family life,but they wanted to cheat and my second husband is bipolar. i never acted like most of these women out here poping out random babies with no good childish niccas.stop
@3:31
Um you couldn't be further from the truth! LOL! I am actually envied by white women because of my svelte figure and the attention I garner from white men. I am not of the "negroid race" I don't use semantics to define my genetic makeup. I don't believe nor follow evolution so what you said doesn't apply to me. Um If I was useless I wouldn't be so well liked by white people. When white women see me they twirl their hair (body language for 1)flirting when done to men 2) envy when done to other women. Again I am not nor have I ever been perceived as a 'nigger' because that word does not apply to me any form, shape of fashion. Not in the literal sense nor physical sense.
And ugh FYI I don't own anything from Rebecca Minkoff I said I passed on the chance to own that purse/clutch/wristlet that was on ridiculous sale for 80% I want to save my splurge for these Balenciaga stilettos that were 60% off.
Sterotyping all women with different baby fathers has no good hoodrats. Some women have actually tried to build a stable family life with men who seem stable and well rounded.it just doesn't always work out.
Hey snot, whats my ass taste like bitch?
@3:31 Not that you speak for all white people, but luckily, it doesn't matter what white people think at this point in history.
Perhaps, you can hook Pro-Snob up with a job though. Can she find you on LinkedIn?
Proverbial Snob = Soho from NY.
Remember that wacko...
@ 'white joke'
Your poor attempt at being humorous is so underwhelming I don't think you have quite hit the mark, you couldn't possibly be white. Troll yes, white a resounding NO.
@ 3:40 Ugh no way no ghetto names here. My real name is of Greek origin for some reason my parents like Greek and Hebrew names. EBT? Sadly I didn't know what that was until I came onto these blogs. I'm always out of the loop when it comes to ghettos-isms.
@ Um if you knew my real life i.e. my profession you would be surprised LOL let's just say there are 6 degrees of separation between me and 60 percent of that celebrity roster to the right of your screen!
Hey I wasn't snobby about this at all maybe I should name names of people I actually know?
@
@3:51
SoHo? as in SoHo, NY? You live in NYC? I was courted 3 times there but I turn all 3 of them down. I don't do the dating thing...
Wait I just realized what you meant! SoHo, NY the person that no longer comments here?! She has the best comments here hands down, her and RnB Thug always have interesting and relevant things to say wonder where did she go?
I aint mad at Nia, but I always gotta laugh at the 40+ and never been married chicks that wanna give advice on what works and what doesn't. And besides that, she's pretty much stating what should be obvious to anyone with a brain..
Is anyone else disappointed that H&M doesn't have an online store for the U.S.?
She giving advice but she made sure she got a "baller". so she get a check for 18 years. and she ain't working on nothing. She is in no position to judge noboby. who would deliberately get pregnant just for a check that could backfire nothing is guaranteed people get fired, or die untimely etc. That has to be how she thinks or what she would do. She wants to seem better than other women who get in that situation. She is looking just like those women she putting down. She needs to look in the mirror before she say anything like that.
I hope everyone here realizes this is entertainment and no ones feelings should be hurt :)
These are opinions. You need to realize that.
apparently, you don't respect or accept other people's opinions.People can say whatever they want deal with it.
Aint this the same bitch that was on the cover of a magazine with her kids and no man talking about she wasn't married because that's not where her "family" was at that time.
Ask any kid that has two parents whether he'd like to see them together and they'd probably be THERE at THAT Time.
She's sad because she makes excuses for her behavior.
GET MARRIED BEFORE YOU HAVE KIDS. Period. Then you'll know the person is at least MARGINALLY invested in you AND your body.
Nia should shut her dumb ass up. Its like these women discourage marriage and embrace being ababy mamas. Terrible.
@ 10:02.. even the ones commenting with baby fathers aren't dumb enough to come out and say this is how isht is SUPPOSED to be..
Interesting how the Nubian Goddez has not shown herself on the thread. I wonder why?
@9:40 Valid observation...
I see whole lot of folks forgot to taket their meds today. Some people take what is said on a gossip blog so serious. This isn't place where you pick your paycheck up.
Lmao @ big brother coon almighty! You people are crazy as hell on here!
NIA IS SO FULL OF SHIT. HER FIRST KID SHE HAD BY A DRUG DEALER SO SHE COULD GET HIS MONEY & THIS 2ND BABY SHE HAD BY SOME RANDOM NBA PLAYER TO SECURE A CHECK AS WELL. NIA DON'T TRY TO PREACH AT ANYONE BECAUSE I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOUR GOLD DIGGING WAYS HONEY. I AM NOT FOOLED. YOUR OLD ASS GOT KNOCKED UP ON PURPOSE TO MAKE SURE YOU WOULD GET PAID FOR THE NEXT 18 YEARS SO CUT THE SHIT. WHAT WAS THE LAST JOB YOU HAD NIA? DON'T WORRY I'LL WAIT.
Proverbal Snob
As a black woman i have never considered myself to be a nigger because to me this word can fit anyone of any race because it is associated with ignorance. I also dont associate myself with sterotypes because life is really an individual journey. I also know a lot of smart hard woring black people which i am sure u would never pay attention to because that would deflate that entitled ego of yours if money was based on the entire value of life then we r all fked. At least history tells why black people might have issues what the fk is your excuse ms. superior complex?
@10:35 AM I hear ya and I agree with you. This is a black blog that features black celebrities and most of the posters in here are black and this is a black issue.
@ 10:35 AM & 10:16 Both of you are in denial. Statistics show that 70% (est) of black children are born to single black women.
Answer this question. When was the last time you attended a relative's wedding where both the guy and girl were black, gainfully employed, and had no stray babies?
Mine was in the early 70s when I was kid. My cousin and his wife to be were high school sweethearts. Since that wedding, there really hasn't been one like that one in my family circle. How about yours?
Nia may not have specifically said 'black women' but I guarantee her message was directed to the black woman, even though she's not married. Black folks have a way of talking in codes when they want to address the brothas and sistas. That's exactly what Nia did with this comment.
@Proverbial Snob
You on here again!!! If you hate blacks so much, why spend your useless time coming on a black blog!!! Are you in a mental hospital?? For the record.....white women are bigger whores!!! You bitches fuck everyone you can get your hands on!!! Do you even watch tv or open a magazine!!! You bitches stay on Deadly Women killing your husbands for money and shit!!! Now go back to sucking your daddy dick since you whites love incest within family!!! Any time a white devil can stay hating on a black blog means you are jealous of us and can't take the fact that you have no life!!! I bet you look like Honey Boo Boo's mom!! Silly white whore!!
@Proverbial Snob
Do you suck black dick for free?? I know white women love to do it too every man they meet. I know a couple of men who want to skeet a load in your mouth!!! I'm glad you love coming on a black blog even though you are a racist cunt with no life. black people are better then you that is why you stalk black blogs like the crazy white nasty devil you are!! How does it feel coming from a race of people that have destroy nearly every single continent on earth, who are mass murders and rapists? You are not better bitch, that is why you stay on here making nasty comments because you're insecure and with low self esteem!!! A black woman fucked your man didn't she?
Proverbial Snob likes sucking black dick and pussy!! That is why she is on this black blog, she wants to hook up with a black person!!
@Proverbial Snob
Do your thing and go give a black person some head!! You are such a good whore!!!
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