Thursday, December 20, 2012

Tom Joyner and Donna Richardson Call it Quits


Radio personality Tom Joyner and his fitness guru wife Donna Richardson are divorcing after twelve years of marriage and it's going to be MESSY...

From NY Daily News
Tom Joyner, host of the nationally syndicated radio show “The Tom Joyner Morning Show,” and his wife, ESPN sports commentator Donna Richardson, are headed for divorce after 12 years. The duo split weeks ago in what was a “mutual but not exactly amicable” situation involving other parties, a source tells Confidenti@l’s Marianne Garvey.

61 comments:

Anonymous said...

WELP, GOOD LUCK WITH THAT DUDE!

Anonymous said...

He's gross.

Anonymous said...

Good!! I have No Sympathy for this Light Skinned Fuck Boy Clown. Grow up TJMS

Anonymous said...

She was always too good for him. How in the hell does a man who looks like that get a beautiful wife? His pockets must be deeeeep.

Anonymous said...

@820

Why does light skinned have anything to do with it?

Dumbass

Anonymous said...

Married? I thought he was GAY?! He's the biggest queen on radio.

TRACY SAID...PRAISE THE LORD! said...

◄ Ecclesiastes 7:14 ►Ecclesiastes 7:14
The Message (MSG) On a good day, enjoy yourself;
On a bad day, examine your conscience.
God arranges for both kinds of days
So that we won’t take anything for granted.
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◄ Ecclesiastes 7:14 ► King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.) In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him.
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I hope that things work out for the best, divorce is painful and messy. God is a good God, with the help and strength of the lord , God will walk you through any adversity in your life, if you are a born again christian and have the right attitude.

Anonymous said...

WOW.......I'm just stunned.

Anonymous said...

tom is a gay man !!!! end of story!

Anonymous said...

8:19 to 8:20 you guys are stupid!
Fat boy learned nothing from being with Mrs. Fitness guru? She wasted her time with him.

Anonymous said...

@8:31 AM
naw if u listen to him he is the one with the Color struck complex...He feels the Darkies are different even on his cruises he promotes that..Dumb Hoe

Anonymous said...

People, marriage is something else. I'll never do it again. I had never been taken for granted and treated with such disrespect in my whole life. When a person feels as if they own you, they treat you like crap. I was never so lonely in my life. I never got hollered at so much in my life. It happened overnight. The moment I said "I Do". All if his child hood issues, rage issues, issues with women, black folks, gays and foreigners all came out. ( yes, he was black)Who do you think he took it out on? ME. Because I lived under the same roof! Yes, I endured verbal abuse simply because I disagreed with his racist beliefs! It was the worst mistake of my life marrying this guy. He was a moody RAGER. I learned that his dad beat his mom etc....It all came out while I was living with him. I MISSED THE SUBTLE SIGNS early on. Ladies, try not to miss the little things.

Ladies,listen to me well. If you are considering marriage. PLEASE! Get pre marital counseling. A lot of black guys will fight you on this, but don't take no for an answer. GOOD counseling will draw out the demons. You'll be amazed how much a person can hide. They can't hide forever, and you don't want to say "I Do" and have his mess seep out little by little or OVERNIGHT and find out that you are living with a monster.
NIP THAT SHIT in the bud w/ counseling. Save your self from a bad marriage........

Ladies, if he tells you he came from an abusive home, RUN.
If more than 1 person tells you NOT to marry dude, listen! Nobody is jealous. That is a SIGN.
If he has a bad relationship with his mother and/or sisters, RUN.
If he doesn't see his children and pay child support on a regular basis, COURT ORDERED, RUN.
If God is NOT the center of his world, RUN
If he is racist in any kind of way, RUN.
If he finds your hobbies "annoying", just RUN.

This is stuff you can pay attention to upfront, sometimes they hide this crap real good AND SO MUCH MORE.( like in my case) just get pre- marital counseling to pick his brain.

For those of you who are just starting to date a guy....don't be afraid to ask questions that draw out lengthy answers. Have fun, but watch and listen for SIGNS.

Remember, even if you land a great guy, it ain't that great dealing with someone and having to look at there face 24/7. You always have to take that person into account. You can't do this or that because it could affect your spouse. Remember that YOUR FREEDOM is compromised. If you are not willing to be 50 percent responsible for another persons happiness and well being 24/7 until you die, PLEASE. Don't enter into marriage. It is work and sex with 1 person FOREVER. Just date and keep your own apartment if you can't do that. Thank you so Good luck.




Nicole Desmente said...

9:11, Good advice, but most of these chicks WON'T take it. Women are so obsessed with being married so that they can holler "I got the ring!", as if that's the only thing there is to marriage. Most American women have been conditioned to be wives (fairytale weddings, Disney, romance novels, etc.) for the glamour of the wedding and reception only. Women can tell you that they've been planning their wedding since they were little girls, but ask them to plan a counseling session with their husbands and they won't be able to.

Anonymous said...

@9:11 - I usually never comment on blogs but I couldn't agree more with your statement!!! AMEN TO THAT!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

True Dat 9:11. Been there more than once and had to RUN more than once too. Sometimes you're better off single, hell Lots of times! Nothing worse than carrying the LOAD of somebody you really can't stand but you're stuck with. By the way my latest hubby got it right. Marriage dont have to last long, if it aint working call it a day...even if it only lasts 3 days.

Anonymous said...

@9:11 wow. True.

Anonymous said...

I just think that people in general take their vows too lightly. It's so quick and easy to get a divorce and yet seemingly so hard to stay and work on it / work it out. I've never been married - so, this is just from the outside looking it.
I feel like if you can take the time in making a 'relationship' work you can devote as much time to making your marriage work.
At the first sign of something going wrong everyone is so quick to run to the divorce lawyer....but, like I said...I'VE NEVER BEEN MARRIED BEFORE....so take this as a grain of salt.

I'm really sorry to hear of this split. I listen to him in the morning....

Anonymous said...

^^^^outside looking IN.

Nicole Desmente said...

Yesterday on Twitter I read this: "I'm anti-marriage for the most part because marriage concepts are patriarchal; you are the man's property. Marriage is expected to be by rule, monogamous and I don't believe that humans are monogamous by nature. Westerners have an obsessively-romantic idea about marriage. Marriage is expected to be a nuclear family model. Lastly, marriage lays out too many rules for women and not any for men." Interesting.

Anonymous said...

@9:18 Shoot, They need to take those misleading shows off the air. These women want the title,a ring, but don't want to face the reality of a life long commitment.

Marriage ain't no royal fairytale. Your husband won't treat you like no damn princess after 1 year! He'll say your nagging him after 90 days, just to pick a fight so he can stay out all night in some filthy bar, reminiscing about his single days.

**** FYI. It don't matter how pretty you are. You ain't special. He will get tired of looking at you. Hence THE MAN CAVE.****

By the way, how long is the honeymoon princess phase? 1 or 2 short years? lol.

TRACY LOVE GOD 4 EVER .. said...

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@9:11...EXCELLENT POST!... I was married for 25 years, happily married for 20 years. My ex-husband is a christian- born again believer, but i just wanted to post this scripture, because, God don't want his children to marry nonbelievers. I'm not implying, anything about TOM JOYNER AND HIS WIFE FAITH. I'm responding to a comment in your post. There are numerous reasons why marriages don't last, but if you become unequally yoke spiritually, the marriage won't last long.
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◄ 2 Corinthians 6:14 ► King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)..Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
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The Message (MSG)... Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way:...“I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good,” says God. “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself.I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me.”
The Word of the Master, God.

Only1Nikki said...

I always felt like she was too good for him. I mean 1st look at him second he silly as hell.

Nicole Desmente said...

10:11, Co-sign honey, co-sign! Great point about the "man cave". My husband has one, damn. LOL.

Anonymous said...

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo *taking a breath* oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Anonymous said...

@10:14

I'm 9:11 Tracey. Thanks. I wrote that because it was on my heart. God is SO important in a marriage. I'm glad people understand what I was trying to say. I was writing pretty fast and was afraid I didn't make sense. I think people are owed the truth! People need to speak the truth about marriage. It's serious business and messed up on so many levels in America especially because it's treated as a game. SMH.

Like I said. If you are considering marriage,I BEG OF YOU. Get pre-marital counseling from a faith biased minister! You need to know what is required of you in marriage. You need to know if you partner has demons. Most of the time people hide their demons from their partner while dating,but honestly, sometimes people don't even know that they are carrying around wounds that will come out in a marriage. It's tough.

When you are dating a guy, have fun. But ask yourself this question. What is this man HIDING from me???? You have work to do ladies.

Anonymous said...

1. What does color have to do with the topic???
2. Why do people marry when not only does it cost to marry, but since over half of you will be divorced sometime REAL soon, it's going to cost you even more to divorce?
3. Why did she marry a gay man?????? Hm....they both might be tutti-frutti.

Anonymous said...

Why do yall keep saying he's gay?

TRACY SAID...PRAISE THE LORD! said...

@ 10:31... GOD BLESS!

Anonymous said...

@9:11

Another factor to look at is what type of relationship patterns we were exposed to growing up. I'm going through some of what you listed but I take blame also.

I grew up with a mother who dated often and just about every damn body. Then she went from dating a Rollo-type to Steve Urkel and got engaged in less than 3 months of dating. Urkel Sr. had a few dollars and some education but not much else.

I dated a little more conservatively but never had kids because I wanted a more traditional start. Anyway, my mom tolerated a lot of shit from these males. "Rollo" lied to us several times and put a gun to her face in a drunken rage, a few were married and others just no good. Saw all this growing up and of course, i would tolerate some of this in my latest relationship. But I'm so happy it was never legal and there are no kids. Went through several stages of trying to fix things and its like trying to put Chanel lipstick on a pig, waste of time, money and effort. And some people live the rest of their lives like this.

Anonymous said...

@11:21

Why would you ever take blame for that? Did you cheat or put your hands on your husband? If not, stop.

Anonymous said...

@9:11 you better say that again again and again. As my papa would say love is cool, but it ain't everything. You gotta know who you dealing with and listen to your brain, because the heart doesn't have one.

DaisyDooks said...

Hmmm, why was my comment deleted?

Anonymous said...

11:21, I love my mother and I've forgiven her, but I watched her date some real assholes also. Now that I'm in a new relationship after 6 shitty years with my ex, I've decided that only men that I'm absolutely serious about will meet my son. One guy met my son because he met me at a vulnerable moment and its been crazy and my son LOVES that dude. My son watched enough foolishness between me and his father, so I refuse to let him witness any fuckery with new dudes.

I'm trying to pick better men, but as I go through the motions to become a better woman and make better choices, I've decided that I need to be seriously dating a man for 6 months before he meets my baby. I may be freaking while my baby is with his daddy on weekends, but I don't want him to think that men are supposed to move in with us after 2 weeks of dating. Nope, only serious men meet my kid from here on out.

Too many women don't realize the damage they do when they casually date men and allow those men to casually date their kids as well.

Anonymous said...

Any woman that can stomach to have a man that looks exactly like Popeye climb on her back for 12 years, deserves my condolences because her vagina is dead. Give that woman what she wants...LOL!

Anonymous said...

Do you know the kind of Long ridiculous paper this man has??
I knew it!! She did her time and I hope it ain't him. I like Tom,hope he has an ironclad prenup, if not leave her Rock step ass broke.

Anonymous said...

@9:11am and 9:18am Absolutely!
You ain't never lied. So damn true.

one love.

Anonymous said...

I don't see what Donna saw in this turtle head asshole.

Special K said...

She is tired of being his beard.

Anonymous said...

*11:21 here*

@11:33a, I take blame because the signs were there that he would never bring me the tangible and intangible things once promised.

In short, friends did warn me that he was another angry, unmotivated male that would never accomplish anything in life ... and be jealous of any real accomplishments I made.

One small business and many college credits later...yes, they were right and he still says that my friends (and everyone else) is hating because they don't have a man.

@1:42p I know that Shit ain't easy. Funny thing is while I was out I saw a dude who looked like someone I wanted to have a future with. It wasn't but they were running out of an extended-stay motel in my 'hood. This person was white (or bi-racial) and a sister was chasing him from another corner and cursing him out like he was trying to stick her with the bill.

Not to get too off-topic but in order for the Black race to prosper, getting dating priorities in order (and stop being "guests" on daytime talk shows) is the only way peace will be achieved.

Anonymous said...

Maybe she got tired of that big yellow banana...or teeny weeny banana.

Anonymous said...

He so Gay

Drea Rodgers said...

@9:11 I'm over here in tears please SPEAK and tell these ladies to take heed! my 1st post ever and I have been on here for years!

Anonymous said...

911 am sooooooooooo true!!!!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice 9:11AM! I really appreciate it. :)

Nat said...

@ 9:11

God Bless you, sister. What you said is exactly what I needed to hear. How crazy is it that I find strength from an unlikely place? Be Blessed!

Anonymous said...

9:11 is telling the TRUTH!!
Ya'll betta listen!!!

Anonymous said...

@1:55 U ain't right... LMAO!!!

Anonymous said...

@9:11PM Where were you when i needed you on 10-17-87?? But thank God i had to let go and run for my life with my 2 sons. I will never marry again I don't want to date either I just want to love myself and to be HAPPY and to thank God for another chance to have a peaceful life.much LOVE and RESPECT to you 911 and to all of my RWS Sister's.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to read about their divorce. I met them both at a party in Las Vegas, and they were both friendly and gracious.
So sad...

Anonymous said...

Marry the wrong man=Hell
Marry the right man=Heaven
The choice is yours

Anonymous said...

11:46

I'm 9:11
I understand where you coming from. I don't date either and never want to again. I'm happy just being a mom also. Have a great new year sis!

Anonymous said...

Sorry to read about this maybe they can find away to work it out. If not hoping this just a minor setback for her a divorce can really be a major disaster on a women. People are so easily to walk away from marriage when a Earthquack hit homebase lets just call it quits. Ladies learn your man an listen closely to his marriage vows. LISTEN to @9:11am

Anonymous said...

I've never seen her on ESPN and I don't believe the credibility of this post.

gr8p said...

9:11, you are the truth!

Anonymous said...

@9:11am

Tell that truth, Sista!!! You are on point with that!

I like Tom Joyner... I hope they can work it out. If not, I hope he has a TITANIUM clad pre-nup!!

Anonymous said...

We as a people are still like a bucket of crabs. We don't really know Donna or Tom so we say things like he is gay or she is the queen and we don't really know one thing about them. I am so happy that I am not famous. I feel for both Donna & Tom, they are our sister & brother. We are such HATERS!!! Grow up!!!

amara1 said...

OMG!! I am waaaay late posting here.. But after reading 9:11's post, Whooooaaaaaa!!! I agree with you and love you for being so honest...I, too have experienced "the monster" man!!! (angry - jealous - unmotivated-lashing out -unrealistic thinking-weird family nuclear interactions)..Crazy MFer!!!!.. This type of man sees women as victims and sets out to victimize her( at least the one (s) I was with).. I've seen this behavior in more than one man (I only dated black so this is my reference point)... I chose not to marry my most recent fool as I saw nothing in it for me-except being stuck with having to share my motivation with him and prop him up repeatedly!!! Thank God for wisdom.. As far as Tom and his divorce, I listen to his morning show, but know nothing of his interactions with his wife nor what caused this divorce.. #I have to honestly say I doNOT trust black men with my spirit.. (just my reference point like I said-maybe there is ONE healthy black man out there;I don't know) :(.. Free from chaos!!

Anonymous said...

Marriage in an of itself is not BAD! What's bad is marrying the wrong person or marrying for the wrong reason. I read through a number of your comments to keep seeing God being mentioned yet his sacrament is being ridiculed. Marriage should be taken seriously because when done right it serves as a message to God that we honor him.

Anonymous said...

@ 9:11 and all who agree with her post:

Look here sister, you ain't saying nothing that hasn't already been said and beaten to death. I mean how Is this news? Even today, there are women who would kill to be with Chris brown (and a million other spiteful woman beaters and abusers), even though they KNOW he went "target practice" mode on the proverbial weaker sex.

I bet when you first met him you were so blinded by the light (was it his muscles, or how tall he was, or his sex appeal/swag/game that got you?) that you couldn't see these little nuances manifest. Either that or you probably dismissed them as "him just being him."

Oh it "happened overnight?" Who are you trying to kid? Do you think just because we leisurely drop banter on a blog gives you the right to think we are THAT stupid?
You're not gonna like my post (and neither are most of the jaded and jilted ex gf's and lovers reading this) but I must give you the truth in it's purest form: "Being in love is amazingly akin to being Insane."
He did some things that made you wonder why, but you totally brushed them off. You want to tell us he was perfect before marriage and grew demon's horns and a pitchfork "OVERNIGHT?!" What's even more gasp inducing than your statement is the fact that there are "sages" here that actually agree with you. How long were you two married before you noticed this?

And I am 100 percent sure that back in the day some other guy(s), not as attractive or as tall or as sexy or as full of game etc. from a great family (upbringing wise), with nice mannerisms approached you only to be readily and unequivocally dismissed for "not being up to par."

Now you implore women that if the above cases apply, not to get married and just "date and live in an apartment." What kind of message are you sending the little girls out there?

Some truths:
- MEN WILL ALWAYS LIE
- WOMEN WILL ALWAYS LIE
- IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO AND DURING A BREAKUP, BOTH PARTIES ARE AT LEAST DUE SOME OF THE BLAME
- WE CLAIM MARRIAGE TO BE FOR BETTER OR WORSE BUT THE TRUTH IS, NO ONE EVER SET OUT TO GET MARRIED FOR THE "WORSE" BECAUSE IF YOU KNEW IT WAS THE WORSE, YOU WOULDN'T GET MARRIED
- PSYCHOTIC TENDENCIES DO NOT MANIFEST OVERNIGHT AND THERE IS ALWAYS A TRIGGER EVENT

Notice how I have not insulted you not called you the "B" word at any point. And I am in no means calling you a bitter ex spouse.

Go out there and find you a good man (see how I never said "perfect" man) that values family, love and morals and meet him half way. Tell me if that doesn't work for you.

Anonymous said...

God bless and see you both thur these tough times

Anonymous said...

He's a QUEEN, been a QUEEN and will ALWAYS be a QUEEN!! Can't you tell?!!

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