Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Tameka Blames Divorce on Secret Liposuction


Back in 2009 Tameka Raymond almost died after sneaking off to Brazil to have liposuction just two months after giving birth to a son with pop star Usher [click here if you missed that].

Tameka blames that fateful trip on torpedoing her marriage…

In an interview promoting her new reality show, Atlanta Exes, Tameka Raymond tells Rocsi Diaz on ET,
"I did dumb stuff. I mean, I went to Brazil and tried to get lipo and almost died. I think that embarrassed him to like, “Oh no. I’m packing. She’s a nut.”
Tameka's co-star Torre Hart, Kevin Hart's ex wife, also opens up about her struggle to deal with kevin's new relationship telling Rocsi,
"I never lashed out. I never tried to punch her in the face, even though I've had moments where -- trust and believe -- I wanted to K.O. her ass."
"It does hurt that my kids have to be around a woman who broke up a marriage. I was with [Kevin] when he was selling sneakers for five dollars an hour. I was at every show. I was at his first show where he ever did standup ... I was his muse. I was there from the beginning."

66 comments:

Anonymous said...

Child please.

Anonymous said...

I can understand their pain. For Tameka, I agree...and the comments from the public did not help their marriage or their self esteem. For Torre, to invest and see another reap the benefits is disheartening and insulting. I hope these ladies and put the past behind them and move forward and move on....cause the men have.

Anonymous said...

Women ..let it go!

Ms. Lee said...

The influx of these shows make the partaking women look so incredibly vain, materialistic, hyper-emotional, vindictive, and biased. In short, these shows are doing nothing to uplift and exonerate the historically, socially, and culturally battered and bruised image of the Black woman in particular.

Ms. Toni Cade Bambara would not be thrilled, nor would she be surprised.

Anonymous said...

Say what you will, but this is why I respect L.L.Cool J., Denzel Washington, Terry Crews, Jesse Williams, Isaiah Washington, Samuel Jackson. I will support these men in whatever they do professionally.

Anonymous said...

@9:30 Toni Cade Bambara...Ms. Lee you have a new fan. smooches

Kitty B. said...

Ms. Tameka guurrrrl, STOP!!! Usher is still with the chick who caused him to get the divorce Grace Miguel years later, and he was sleeping with the a slew of your friends, girl just stop! He not thinking about you, move on!

Anonymous said...

Woman today want money over everything. Oh, and don't forget a little fame.

Anonymous said...

No Comment, on how they feel,because at the end of the day I nor anyone else can them how they should feel... but I will say this, Tameka let's be real one minute you'd said that Usher cheated on your with one of your bridemaid (paying homage to Nene, but I know it is bridesmaids) and now you saying that it is because lipo that Usher wanted to leave... Well maybe it is because you are unfit as a human and not as a mother ( I'm not going to question your mothering skills cause it is a very senstive topic for females)... And Tori, you want to punch the other woman in the face, but not Kevin? You can't put all the blame on her, when you was married to Kevin and not her. Whether she known or not Kevin was the one who took the vows not her... and He is just as much as responsible...

Anonymous said...

this is what women say when you leave their asses.

Anonymous said...

*itches be talking ish when you with them, but when you leave their ass here come the tears. "Look at me, i'm so sad".

Anonymous said...

@Ms Lee co-sign.

Anonymous said...

What's the difference between a prostitute who sucks, fucks, and swallows for money and drugs, versus these women who suck, fuck, and swallow for wedding rings, kids, purses, weaves, shoes, eyelashes, cars, clothes, and fame?

Anonymous said...

Investing in a relationship, supporting and caring for your partner, being the breadwinner when they can't - pushing them up to success then have the marriage breakup and someone else enjoy the success you help created is extremely painful. That's like going to school for 18 years and then them saying.. "hey, we know you were here, but you can't get that diploma. Instead we're giving it to someone else who never came to class, cause they're just a better fit" I don't judge women who stay with men who have mistresses, husbands who have outside kids. none of that.
The only thing you can do is - while you're supporting your partner to success, make sure you are putting yourself in a place to achieve as well. So if this does happen to you, you can still drive by him/her in your audi/bmw/bentley and enjoy an equal standard of living.

Anonymous said...

@9:44 So nasty and so rude^_^ In my NeNe voice of course!

Anonymous said...

Tameka is lying about him leaving because of the lipo. I agree with the person saying something about self esteem. I mean people were literally tearing into Usher on the blogs about his choice in a wife. People drug her....saying how ugly she is. To me Tameka is very ugly on the inside because she could never stop going on twitter saying foul crap about Usher. I kind of felt sorry for her that she had a child to die and Usher took two from her. Sometimes we need to check ourselves rather than our ex husband. As for Kevin's ex, I can understand her pain. She's so hurt that she had to do a whole stand up routine about this little hobbit. I don't too much care for Kevin Shart cause he's kind of annoying and that's not funny. Katt needs to come back and sit this idiot down. They say this little dwarf is worth 50 million. These two seem a little more scorned than the Hollywood Exes. They've seem to have moved on. Everyone except Mayte.

Anonymous said...

Tameka let it go girl. He didn't want you. Isn't the wan he's with now a friend of Tameka's? What man does that?? Her mistake was asking for a bigger house during her custody battle and being greedy asking for so much money.

Anonymous said...

Tameka and Usher's relationship never had a chance. She wasn't a great rebound after Chili, and his fans weren't feeling it, nor was his mom, putting that strain on their relationship. As for Kevin, that was messed up. I swear relationships would be so much easier if people tell their intentions with you from the jump.

Anonymous said...

I only deal with about two female friends. I can only take women in small doses. Such a sad, emotional gender.

Anonymous said...

I totally understand Torrei's hurt. Kevin went for a chick that wouldnt have given hime the wrong time of day when Torrei did. Typical. Tameka...not so much. She was married when she started sneaking around with him. And 2 months after the baby she went for the lipo? Dang give your body time.

Anonymous said...

Ms Lee took it back on you hoes! Salute to TONI CADE BAMBARA: THE BLACK WOMAN: AN ANTHOLOGY! How many of you have read this book?! Hell, how many of you have even heard of this book?

Anonymous said...

@9:44 Bitches won't answer your question because they think they're above prostitutes. Lmao. Most wives are legal prostitutes if you really want to be technical.

Anonymous said...

Last year I did a Philosophy course titled “The Philosophy of Sex and Love”. The course sought to explore philosophical theories on sex and love and the function of these two things in human existence. The class was basically an excuse to be sexually explicit in an academic setting. The subject matter ranged from oral sex, to homosexuality, to beastiality, to masturbation, to pornography. Just to name a few. I encourage all final year UWI students to register for this course. Very informative and insightful, and did I mention slack? Yes, very slack.

Anyhow, one of the theories we explored in the course was that of a wife being no different from a prostitute. Armed with this knowledge, I ventured into the deep as I wrote “The Confessions of a Whore”, and suggested that girlfriends and wives were really not that different from prostitutes. The backlash from my female readers was overwhelming.


Here’s the paragraph that ignited the debate :

“When she told me she knew a guy that sold his body, I laughed. My response was, so what? All girls do, at least informally. Yes ladies, when men sleep with you and then you get your favourite pair of shoes or you get that little “allowance”; he’s saying “job well done, get yourself something nice.” (The only thing left for him to do is throw a dollar bill at you.) That makes you a prostitute in everything but name. Try a little independence. After all, the sex is payment enough.”

The reactions were strong and sustained. My female readers found it abhorrent that I could compare their “love” and “relationship” to prostitution. But what is prostitution? And why did I make such a comparison?

http://constructedthoughts.wordpress.com/2011/06/26/the-wife-vs-the-prostitute-whats-the-difference/

Anonymous said...

@9:52 You can't always do both, either you are going to put your career on the back burner and support the family or put your needs front and center and hope for the best. I say place all your demands in a pre-nup. In this new world, stand-up character is fleeting.

Anonymous said...

Um, who gives a fuck on the wife vs a prosititute? So what. Niggas focus on the topic at hand. Most of you comparing the two are just whores anyway justifying your trifling ass behavior by saying being a wife it the same. FINE. GOT IT. Now move on.

Anonymous said...

10:31, I don't think that's the point, but clearly the wife vs. the prostitute is personal for you and that's why you're so angry.

Anonymous said...

ATTENTION, ATTENTION, ATTENTION! I am so sick of seeing women using the media to seek out attention for their private lives.

IMNOT!

Anonymous said...

@10:24
That is a highly interesting yet controversial discourse. Thank you for sharing the uncommon knowledge.

Anonymous said...

The ugly truth is that Kevin Hart would be just like Columbus Short right now if he had this angry, jealous, hateful woman by his side at the top.
The attitudes of these women are YUCKY!!!

zeeedeee said...

Who has to sneak off to do anything with their own body?..that may have been the straw that broke the camels back but betting there was way more..and doesn't Tameka ever have anything else to talk about..ever?..

Anonymous said...

Tameka looks like a handsome strong-framed man and she gave him Two handsome sons. Her use was up at that point.

Anonymous said...

Kevin Hart seems to be little creepy to me, be thankful he's gone and move on. His wife knew he was creepy but you stayed because he became famous.

Anonymous said...

Not only did Tameka's behavior fail as a human during marriage but afterwards also. I wonder will she tell how she spent Usher's child support checks to maliciously slander him via SFTA blogg. The disgusting stories that she and Michelle Brown (Atlean) manufactured and published about him were horrendous and utterly disgraceful. At some point I hope Usher makes them pay for that, even if it takes a life time.

Anonymous said...

I knew when this happened that this would break up the marriage. It was selfish and stupid. Usher loved her for her. Women have to understand that too much drama will drive a man away. He had already had too much. Tameka and any person should've worked on trying to prove the naysayers wrong. Fans and her Mother in- law. She would have a marriage. Never give your haters the satisfaction of proving them riht

Anonymous said...

Torri like I was lover and your secretary working hard everyday of the week. Working hard when no one else was there, helping you get own your feet,

I feel for Tori, Tameka aside from having tragically losing a child no one feels sorry for you because the major of people greatly disapprove of Usher being with you even his own mama, so I say shut and move the hell on.

Anonymous said...

@10:14-there is no difference. One is "legal" and the other one isn't. Some women are brought up to think that sex=material things because "pu**y isn't free". That's the mentality that gets women used up by men.

Independence is a beautiful thing!

Anonymous said...

I saw Kevin's standup- where he talks about the demise of his marriage... he did cheat, but Tori kicked him out- she bascially threw him into the arms of that woman. She gave up, as most Black women do. If it was YOUR place to stay married, why didnt you? dont be mad at his new girl. She just wanred what you had, but YOU gavr it to her

Anonymous said...

@12:18

Independence = Lonely as hell

Self Sufficiency = Always secure

Nobody gets through life alone. You just have to know HOW to be alone when that time comes.

Anonymous said...

I'm so tired of these women crying over spilled milk. Tameka you never had a chance. You were old, married and unattractive to Usher's fans. Usher is dependent on the public so of course he eventually dumped you. Torrei is just jealous that Kevin made it to the big time without her. She strikes me as a major ball buster. Kevin stuck with her because that was the best he could do at the time. When he got money he found somebody who is happy to be around him as opposed to your nagging ass.

Anonymous said...

Kevin Hart seems to be little creepy to me, be thankful he's gone and move on. His wife knew he was creepy but you stayed because he became famous.

11:57 AM
**********

Damn, you have good instincts. I am so jealous of that quality. Kevin is perverted and weirdo. I would not want him around my youngsters. Lets say that.

Anonymous said...

Who has to sneak off to do anything with their own body?..that may have been the straw that broke the camels back but betting there was way more.. 11:45 AM

@11:45 co-sign, you can bet your last dollar that there was more. So much so that it cannot be told. Usher did not deserve a Tameka, he deserved so much more.

Anonymous said...

@ 12:28 PM

How do you know she wasn't justified in throwing him out? No one can push you into any arms unless you were already looking for open ones. Blaming the victim.

Courtesan Paramour said...

LOL these ladies need to stop the madness.

Anonymous said...

Second 12:18, co-sign! I am 10:14 and I see no objective differences between a wife and a prostitute.

Anonymous said...

These shows make for good TV cause they're all dark skin rejects in a sense. The only one that's winning is Nicole Murphy transgendered looking ass with Micheal Strahan. It's no coincidence that they're all brown skin and now the trophy prizes are light skin. Even brown and beautiful Gabrielle Union who's considered an upgrade had her baller have a baby on that ass with a light skin chick. Yes it hurts to be in a position where your man left you for an "apparent" upgrade but Tori should count her blessings. At least she's getting a check which is more than I can say for many women who's husbands have bounced on them and started new families with other women.

There are tons of women in this position. Supporting their men in their dreams only to have these disloyal brothers have a change of heart once they make it big. It is really a loyal woman's worst nightmare. There is no loyalty in marriage or relationships anymore and that's why black folks are so fucked up these days.

Anonymous said...

@9:57am...ITA Kevin Hart is not funny, he is silly which turns into annoying very fast. He is not Richard Pryor, Eddie Murphy or Dave Chappelle funny, he is just a clown, not a real comedian.

Anonymous said...

What they all need to do is take a page (or two) from Shaunie O’Neal and Nicole Murphy's book. Take that really generous child support and get some high end gym equipment in the home, get your body in tip top shape. Take out the weave, wigs, etc. and get yourself a sexy and modern hairstyle. Hire a real stylist to give you an updated and classy look. Get involve with charities and start vetting better friends and associates. i.e. become a socialite. It works for porn stars. LOL. Starts dating hot models then escalate to multi-millionaire moguls. Stop being a Bitter Betty and a Negative Nancy and get a life. If you don’t have to work to support your children then please don’t go on reality TV venting about your ex. It makes you look weak, petty and boring. If these women didn't show their bitterness that could get a better man than their ex's. You notice we have never heard a peep out of Juanita Jordan and Elin Nordegren Woods. I'm pretty sure they are enjoying life without their ex's.

Anonymous said...

" i took a class blah blah blah" who gives a fuck
equating being a wife to a prostitute means you have never been around prostitutes, because it is not equal, sexing 5-10 men a day is not equal to being a wife, giving up your self esteem toby sexing men and giving the money to a man, getting many STDs. Maybe you should have taken a critical thinking class instead

Anonymous said...

and please stop with that tired retort "if you don't agree with me , then you must be sensitive" please just stop the BS. maybe if someone doesn't agree with your spoon fed knowledge because they are a little more pessimistic about your logic/conclusions

Anonymous said...

@ 12:36- independent and self sufficient are SYNONYMS!

And your point is?

Anonymous said...

Wow major skin bleaching.

Anonymous said...

Here’s the problem with that theory. Last time I checked mothers and wives don’t get time off from their duties of wife and mother. I don’t know of any prostitutes that would take care of the responsibilities listed below. These salaries are $300-$500k yearly. So unless you are a multi-millionaire paying someone to take care of all these responsibilities then you are not in a position to compare a wife to a prostitute.

1. Housekeeper salary: 25K. Who makes sure the house is cleaned regularly?

2. Personal chef salary: 50K. Who makes sure their husband and kids have a hot meal regularly?

3. Tutor for homework help: 55K. Who makes sure the kids do their homework regularly?

4. Personal shopper: 30k-50k. Who does all the grocery shopping, clothes shopping for the family?

5. Personal assistance: 31K. Who make sure the kids get to their doctors, dentist appointments, etc.?

6. Accountant-53K. Who makes sure all the bills get paid regularly and on time?

7. Nurse: 45k-65k. Who takes care of the kids when they get sick?

8. Nanny: 28K. Who makes sure that the kids get to school every day along with their other afterschool activities?

9. Maintenance Technician 45K. Who takes care of household repairs?

10. Landscaper/Lawn Care-Optionial.30K. Who makes sure the lawn and shrubs look nice?


Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...

Last year I did a Philosophy course titled “The Philosophy of Sex and Love”. The course sought to explore philosophical theories on sex and love and the function of these two things in human existence. The class was basically an excuse to be sexually explicit in an academic setting. The subject matter ranged from oral sex, to homosexuality, to beastiality, to masturbation, to pornography. Just to name a few. I encourage all final year UWI students to register for this course. Very informative and insightful, and did I mention slack? Yes, very slack.

Anyhow, one of the theories we explored in the course was that of a wife being no different from a prostitute. Armed with this knowledge, I ventured into the deep as I wrote “The Confessions of a Whore”, and suggested that girlfriends and wives were really not that different from prostitutes. The backlash from my female readers was overwhelming.


Here’s the paragraph that ignited the debate :

“When she told me she knew a guy that sold his body, I laughed. My response was, so what? All girls do, at least informally. Yes ladies, when men sleep with you and then you get your favourite pair of shoes or you get that little “allowance”; he’s saying “job well done, get yourself something nice.” (The only thing left for him to do is throw a dollar bill at you.) That makes you a prostitute in everything but name. Try a little independence. After all, the sex is payment enough.”

The reactions were strong and sustained. My female readers found it abhorrent that I could compare their “love” and “relationship” to prostitution. But what is prostitution? And why did I make such a comparison?

http://constructedthoughts.wordpress.com/2011/06/26/the-wife-vs-the-prostitute-whats-the-difference/
10:14 AM

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THIS COMMENTER IS A GUY LOOKING FOR HITS ON HIS BLOG. PLEASE DO NOT PAY ATTENTION TO THE TOPIC. HE IS SAYING THAT ALL WOMEN ARE PROSITUTES (MARRIED OR SINGLE)

WELL HELL JUST BECAUSE HIS MAMMY IS ONE DOES NOT MEAN HE CAN SPEAK FOR ALL WOMEN.

NOT SURE IF HE IS HOMOSEXUAL??

COULD BE.

WOMAN HATER. MISOGYNIST.

Anonymous said...

@10:14
Has an interesting point of view but I'm not in agreement. It's too simplistic and general in its singular depiction of male/female relations.

Anonymous said...

@3:55, could he be Tommy Harris aka Tommy Sotomayor. LOL.

Anonymous said...

@ 10:12 - then that means most husbands are TRICKS! Let's not be so sexist, always putting it off on the woman like she's the only party involved. Also, these are always statement coming from someone poor who married someone else poor and they want to make themselves feel better by calling women who married rich men "prostitutes." Please get a life.....or some money.

Anonymous said...

@ 10:14 - are you a male? If not, why only pinpoint the female, what about the male? What does that make him? Can you please paste what you wrote in your paper about what that makes the husband? Or did you skip that part...sexism is alive and well y'all better wake up. So disappointing coming from a college educated person.

Anonymous said...

@ 3:26 standing up a applauding, thank you!!! Just copied and pasted and sent to all my mom friends. Prostitute? I don't think so! I am starting to think the person that posted that is gay/ misogynistic.

Anonymous said...

@4:54, yes I hate to see Black women get gaslight into thinking that what they do as wives and mothers are of little to no value. Rick folks will pay a half million or more a year to have a staff year round to take care of the home and children. But when a dedicated wife and mother do all of these things out of love, honor, fear and obligation some misogynist comes along and compares a wife to a prostitute. Like I say I doubt you can get a prostitute to get up in the middle of the night to care for a sick child or husband then go to work the next day like it was nothing. Shame, shame and more shame.

Anonymous said...

Tameka looks like an old broken down mother with her legs gaped, that is heavenly burdened with lots of problems crying to her daughters for help. All the daughter surrounds her lending love support and promises to help her out.

Anonymous said...

This prostitute talk is unnecessary and provocative, I don't know why people are responding.
#smh

Anonymous said...

12:18, you and your co-signers are retarded as shit.

Anonymous said...

1) "First wives syndrome" Tori; you were there as he was climbing the ladder and got tossed aside when he made it/traded up (ex. Chris Rock - a man is as faithful as his options"); happens in the business world too so take your divorce settlement and build a new life and partner relationship rather than dwelling on the injustice of it all. A man truly committed to the partnership wouldn't discard you and values your support. 2) Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn't want you per Judge Toller; why debase yourself and beat yourself up, let go and keep it moving if you want to be truly happy. 3) Women need to direct their frustration toward the ex not the new girl, don't know why women often blame the other woman as it is misguided, the shallow man left you lots of clues and red flags and you chose to ignore it for the sake of money, ego, revenge, etc .

len said...

@9:44 The difference is Alimony. If you were married(and divorced) you would know.

KaChhhing!

Anonymous said...

tameka is kind of old to be there with those girls, right?

Anonymous said...

Never trust short men or old women.

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