Tuesday, September 03, 2013

Djimon Hounsou Says Marriage Ruins Relationships


Djimon Hounsou, who was fake married to Kimora Lee Simmons for 3 1/2 years [click here if you missed that], says marriage actually ruins relationships...

In a press call for his new film Baggage Claim Djimon Hounsou explains to  Hip Hollywood,
“The idea of marrying somebody can actually ruin the union.”
“Some people are happily together for decades and they get this fantasy idea to go and get married when it’s just about papers basically…eventually it just goes sour.”
Djimon Hounsou and Kimora Lee Simmons exchanged vows in a commitment ceremony in Djimon's native Benin in 2009 [click here if you missed that]. 

60 comments:

Anonymous said...

Marriages don't ruin relationships, Osama bin laden negro bed wenches that look like Frankenstein do.

Anonymous said...

You are telling the truth. SPEAK!!!

Anonymous said...

Marrying a lesbian ruined your relationship. Hell yall weren't even married, so what the hell are you talking about?

Anonymous said...

How would he know the effects of a marriage if he was never married, lol?

Anonymous said...

Generally speaking, I too feel the "title" adds more pressure on a relationship. It seems like the responsibility increases and naturally it does since you have to consider your mate in most decisions that you make. Then again it depends on the individual to balance that pressure with some sense of normalcy...idk ive seen the piece of paper break up happy couples due to high expectations..
Just sayin'

Anonymous said...

i agree w/ @7:59, my relatioship was fi ne til i got married, shit...

Anonymous said...

ROTL 7:33 I know right? Anyhoo, he does has a point somewhere lost up in there. Marrying for papers aint the real deal honeyboo. Now find u a Real wife and stop messing with Koo--Koo Kola.

Anonymous said...

Well, He is SPOT ON!

Anonymous said...

@ 7:03... exactly! LOFL the real truth behind the narrative.

Anonymous said...

Typical black man...

Any excuse not to stuck around and be responsible.

That said, there's too many people who don't understand it's not just about the ring and a piece of paper. Nobody takes the vows seriously anymore. People get married and divorced like you buy and sell a new car.

Anonymous said...

No what ruins marriages is when your " wife" likes to eat pussy more than you! Dum ass!

Anonymous said...

Nothing he said was incorrect. In any event, women are the main ones pressed for the title of "wife." Marriage can ruin relationships based on societal and familial pressure.

Anonymous said...

Half of yall talking aren't even married so miss me with that sh1t!
People are immoral as hell nowadays. It is possible for two people to love and remain faithful to each other and not listen to celebrities, music, or MOVIES (pop culture in general) and allow that to dictate their lives. No, these people you idolize aren't staying together and these are your heroes? FOH!
These celebrities are just people with money who are LOST and focused on being famous and getting lots of money in life rather than seeking a life of substance and love.
How should a "title" mess up a relationship? Really? Really look at that statement and realize how simple that sounds If a "title" messes things up, your relationship wasn't strong to begin with. If you are strong and meant to be together as a couple, no amount of pressure in the world will separate you.
--Married

Anonymous said...

Marriage makes a nigga's check look funny.

Anonymous said...

10:19, To assume that those of us commenting are wrong simply because you *think* that we're not married is both childish and asinine. Titles complicate things all of the time. Think of the people who change titles at work with promotions and are later demoted because the demand and work load was too much. Marriage is essentially the same. I think that the people on this blog are being realistic with their comments. Love is not created and maintained through titles, and that's first and foremost. Love is created and maintained through itself.

You sound inexperienced and pressed to have a title honestly. If you are married, I can tell that your marriage is going to require significant work because your comments reveals that your maturity and rationality levels are low at best.

Oh, and morals are socially constructed.


Anonymous said...

@10:19
Thank you and I totally agree with your comments. Half of the people speaking on this story have never been married. Most are satisfied with being baby mamas and making excuses for the deadbeats that are laying up in their beds. Stop allowing men to treat you and your body like sh*t. Real men don't have a problem making real commitments.

Anonymous said...

Where's Prof. Lee (Ms. Lee)? I want her take on this.

Anonymous said...

10:41 ms. lee is teaching her classes, lol, she aint got time for rws anymore. her & bee gee left us.

Anonymous said...

""morals are socially constructed." Speak for YOURSELF please. Even normal kids and babies know right from wrong.

Anonymous said...

11:00, Sure, some "morals" are naturally ingrained in us, but the rest of 'em? Socially constructed. Everything is this WORLD is socially constructed:

Religion
Love
Beauty standards
Looks
Careers
Fame
Fortune
Beliefs
Morals
Attitudes
Thoughts
Etc.

Anonymous said...

10:47

Lol. Where is the "honorable serviceman" Bee Gee, the "highly esteemed" Dr. Lee MBA, Nubian Goddess( with her stank lookin ass), Hoodrat (who looks like he specializes in sucking musty dicks), Soho (African poison dart frog), and the gorgeous *giggles* Divaish?

Anonymous said...

@ 11:12....they're ALL ONE PERSON, except for Nubian Goddess LOL! I see you Bee Gee! commenting about where is yourself on every other thread. Nobody gives a shit about your attendance on this blog. U need to quit it!

Anonymous said...

Bee Gee, Ms. Lee, and those others are not the same person. 11:23, if you don't care, why are you commenting?

Don't know where Bee Gee is, but I read an article on Huff Post Black Voices by Ms. Lee and Nubian is on Jacky Jasper. E-Love is on Sandra Rose.

Anonymous said...

@Nubian, thank you! So tired of these stalking bitches fucking with you, Ms. Lee, Bee Gee and E-Love.

NiyabinghiObeahWomanWarrior said...

11:27 bitch stop lying on me, I ain't on no damn jacky jasper site, never been on that site and don't know who hoe is. some of us are tired of these retarded ass estalkers and ebeefs so we post anon, or give the site break. Im trying to turn ovef a new leaf on stop throwing shade on celebrity hoes. If there is a Nubian on jasper site bitch stole my name like somd busted ass afrikan on twitter with my name, im bout to put a root on that thieving, dusty ass whore. now I"m going back to so I talk reckless without muthafukkas googling my name and seeing, all the shit I say in cybef space. After all I"m a professional spiritualist with sensitive clients.

NiyabinghiObeahWomanWarrior said...

Oh yeah forgot to add on this fine ass Nubian God. Nigga shut up and take your clothes and get in my bed. You will be my shaka zulu and I your nandi.

Anonymous said...

No Kunta Kinte, relationships get ruined in marriages because of people who don't want to do the right thing by each other. That kind of attitude can ruin any relationship, not just marriages.

Tippie Hippie said...

So funny this is exactly how I feel - we were together for 7 years before getting married even lived together a couple of years and after the marriage it lasted 3 years and i knew it was over before my first year anniversary - it changed me because I had different expectations and it didn't change him to be ready for a marriage - I think if we never married we would have lasted longer no regrets tho just my analysis

Tippie Hippie said...

So funny this is exactly how I feel - we were together for 7 years before getting married even lived together a couple of years and after the marriage it lasted 3 years and i knew it was over before my first year anniversary - it changed me because I had different expectations and it didn't change him to be ready for a marriage - I think if we never married we would have lasted longer no regrets tho just my analysis

Anonymous said...

10:38
A hit dog will holler and I can hear you barking through my screen, miss. A lot of hurt in that post. I will keep you in my prayers, sweetheart.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Tippie, for telling us, yet again, about your failed marriage to the Puerto Rican man.

Anonymous said...

12:42, I'm a happily married woman and you need to worry about yourself and not me. A lot of hurt? Please. Your failed reverse psychology is funny and extremely amateur. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Cosign 10:19am, if a title is just a title, then it shouldn't mess up any type of relationship if you really think about it, there are more nonmarried couples than married couples, yet they break up every other day. People don't like to be held accountable for their own actions, if your relationship ended, then it was Your fault, and your ex's fault. Society tells men to forgett marriage and responsibility, and chase tacky strippers instead. No wonder our society is filled with a bunch of sissys and lady boys. Men don't want to do the job of men, and foolish women enable them.

Tippie Hippie said...

Thank you, Tippie, for telling us, yet again, about your failed marriage to the Puerto Rican man.
_________________
You are very welcome I hope I've made your week.
: ) : ) : )

HERES A TIP FOR YOU LOSER: WHEN YOU SEE MY NAME CLOSE YOUR EYES!

Happy Reading!

Anonymous said...

Peace!

Marriage begins in the mind. To pay money for a license to be acknowledged has a couple, and then pay more money for a divorce?

This is BIG business for the government who is pimping all parties who choose to get "married under the government" .

Anonymous said...

The black community is a laughing stock because so many households (%60-70%) consist of children born out of wedlock. FoxNews LOVES to publicize it. They love to mock how our homes are so unstable, and how we live so far below the poverty level BECAUSE our homes lack two parents. The power of our dollar, to invest, buy homes, affect politics, educational systems, etc is greatly diminished due to our children being born into poverty.

Imagine how much stronger we would be as a people if we had more two parent households, like we did prior to the 1960's? Why do you guys think the government and its' agents worked so hard to destabilize black families, if being married truly means nothing? It is FAR MORE than just a piece of paper.

Think about it.

Anonymous said...

@3:39
Please tell these fools the truth! I get so tired of folks using that lame a$$ excuse about 'it's just a piece of paper.' It is SO much more than that, especially when it comes to creating stable environments for our children. PREACH! I love it!

Wassup to Nubian - girl, you've been missed! I used to die laughing at your comments.

Anonymous said...

Please ho , marriage is only hard if you're a morally bankrupt fool who can 't value just one woman and lets his dick sway in the wind

i love marriage, nothing sexier than a hubby

Anonymous said...

@4:15...THANK YOU! Glad to see like minded folks on these forums.

Do any of you think Obama and Michelle would be in the White House if not for their MARRIAGE? You had better believe that marriage is the backbone of who he is, and their girls lives and upbringing would be MUCH different if Michelle were a single mom, raising them alone.

Obama was raised by his GRANDPARENTS who were married! He CHOSE to stay with them in Hawaii, rather than go back with his mom, because her home was so unstable. And look Michelle Obama! Do you think she would have gone to Princeton coming from a single parent home?

Hell no! Not coming from South side Chicago.

Anonymous said...

@ 3:39 YES , it's economics and so much more...

Anonymous said...

@ Tippie Toes

girl sorry bout it , I wish it lasted

at least you've been married

Anonymous said...

Marriage is detrimental to women who yearn for the need to be validated by it.

All throughout a woman's life (childhood included), she has been brainwashed to think that her only purposes to are to walk down an aisle and to spread her legs for sperm.

Most women have also been brainwashed into thinking that they have some "biological clock" and that if they aren't married and with child by a certain age, they'll be alone forever--or that something is "wrong" with them.

Djimon is correct for the most part. Women are the main ones who are extremely pressed for the title of "wife." They are usually the ones who hint at and/or continuously ask their men about marriage until the men "give in" and "settle down."

Black women are especially pressed over marriage because so many of them are plagued in the media as the ones who'll NEVER experience it.

Let's remove the over-priced ring, the ridiculous dress, the flamboyant wedding reception, the title of "wife," and how many women would still be pressed?

I only ever hear of women reciting how marriage is "beneficial to women and children for financial purposes." Ok, but what about the man; the husband and father? What are his benefits? Right.

All in all, marriage is a very touchy subject. You can't rationalize with a group of people who see marriage one way due to their religious backgrounds and brainwashed upbringings.

Good luck to all of you in your marital endeavors though.

Anonymous said...

This forum is full of idiots. What I gather is: if you come from a single parent home, you'll never graduate from college and become president, but if you stay with your married grandparents and get married once you become an adult, you'll have a better chance at college and a presidency? Ridiculous.

Anonymous said...

@5:01
If that's ALL you gathered from these comments, then you are definitely one of the idiots that you speak of.

Anonymous said...

Damn. Co-sign 4:59. Anyone who tries to come for you is questionable. You used no profanity and told the truth.

Tippie Hippie said...

@4:46
Yes no apologies though I'm in a good place and I got married young even after 7 years but you are kind : ) and I appreciate that!

Anonymous said...

You ultimately have white liberals to blame who twist and turn logical reasoning behind marriages into something materialistic, shallow, and temporary.

Marriage, at least prior to the 60's, was significant in keeping together the strong nuclear family. It kept a hard working, non-welfare leeching, husband-wife/mother-father in the home with their 1+ kids. Nowadays since most aspects of American culture is demoralized and degenerate, it truly means nothing anymore (except to the gays, who just want to pay taxes like every other married couple). That came from again, the white (feminist) liberals who emphasized female entitlements and what they "deserve" in marriage (a ring, a big-ass wedding dress they'll only wear once, a honeymoon, and financial security). I know all my family went to the courthouse, had a justice-for-the-peace and called it a goddamn life. They didn't need or care for a big-ass party celebrating what is their personal/private responsibility.

Marriage isn't the problem. It's the perversion of it and peoples' rediculous idea(l)s about it.

Anonymous said...

Why doesn't Blue Ivy Smile? There is not one pic on the web of her/him smiling? Its going on two years and not one smiling family pic???

Two years old and no one has comb that hair??? No pic smiling? WTF???????

Anonymous said...

@5:39...I agree with every word of that.

I am the anonymous who believes marriage is far more than a piece of paper, and you summed it up very nicely as well.

Kudos

Anonymous said...

Marriage is not for everyone, just because his marriage didn't work doesn't mean its bad for everyone's relationship my grandparents for married more than 70 years. until the day they both died. these two live together before they're fake marriage. you can never create harmony from disorder

Anonymous said...

That's what happens when you play like you,
married, too afraid to make a hundred percent commitment to one another

Anonymous said...

@5:52 why you so worried about blu ivy????

Anonymous said...

Most of ya'll really have no place to co-sign the bullshit he is spewing... just a thought.

Anonymous said...

Nobody gives two fucks about beegee, ms korean lee or the rest of the hoes who have stop commenting. RWS will continue without them.

We all know that beegee is always checking to see if somebody, please anybody is still checking for his old tired ass.

Anonymous said...

This is not news-the man was never legally married to Kimora so what is he saying? A non-marriage (shack-up) ruined his "relationship"?

Tell the truth and shame the devil-Kola "broke up" your "marriage"!

This is pure BS!

Anonymous said...

4:59 PM

Marriage actually benefits men more than it does women. You have some serious research and/or googling to do if you believe otherwise...

Anonymous said...

That's just wrong, brotha Hounsou! God designed marriage for man and woman to be as one in holy matrimony. His plan wasn't (and still isn't) for people to shack up and just procreate. Where's the morals, respect and love for each other? And people wonder why so many black women have out of wedlock babies. Here's the answer right here: marriage is just a piece of paper. No, I'm not perfect and yes I've made mistakes. People are supposed to live and learn from their mistakes.

Anonymous said...

If you have a strong foundation before marriage, you'll have one after marriage. Most married people don't care about titles or labels. Marriage isn't for everybody but it shouldn't be spoken in a negative light just because you don't agree with it.

Anonymous said...

God did not design marriage to be anything holy.

Marriage, for centuries, was about exchanging property and money. What do you think a dowry is? It's the property and money the bride's family gives the groom in exchange for him taking care of her for the rest of her life. It was slavery, except this particular slave's family had to benefit of PAYING the new owner to take the slave (wife) off her father's hands.

The engagement ring was a marketing ploy created by DeBeers Diamond company to sell more diamonds during the 1920s. Instead of waiting around for rich people to by a rock here or there, they marketed stones to the general public, and now people think that women have been getting expensive rings for engagement since the dawn of time.

Anonymous said...

Marriage was designed by God, long before money, dowrys or property rights ever existed. It started in the Garden of Eden and God never intended for man and woman to be divorced, nor did he design sin. He made them a Holy union, and if they had listened to HIM, they would not have fallen.

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