Monday, November 09, 2020

Pastor John Gray Apologizes to His Wife


Earlier this year mega church pastor John Gray was caught in a cheating scandal for the third time [click here if you missed that]. 

Pastor Gray apologizes to his wife and God...

In lengthy post on Instagram Pastor Gray admits his failings and promises to be the man God intended him to be.

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A few months ago I sat down from leading at Relentless. My life wasn’t in order. Church isn’t first. My wife is. This is my wife. She is from God. She is a life giver. She is a kingdom builder. Her name is Aventer. I met her at church. She was worshipping God through dance. Over time, she allowed me in her life and let me dance with her. She took my ring and said yes and we began our forever journey. What my dance partner didn’t know was that I was very much unfinished. I never knew what consistent discipline, planning, leadership, manhood, or personal holiness in action from a man’s standpoint looked like. Living a shadow life, God was unwilling to let me die assuming I was whole. I failed to uphold the holy standard of God in my marriage. And I’m sorry. Although you are the only woman I’ve ever slept with, emotional unfaithfulness is just as wrong. Sin is sin. People want to minimize one sin over another, when it all can get you sent to hell. My marriage forced me to face both of me. Flesh versus spirit. It is every man’s battle. Loving God isn’t enough. Preaching Jesus isn’t enough. Face yourself. Get delivered. Or hurt the ones who actually love you the most. I started intense counseling (personal and for my marriage) in the summer. Scariest thing ever. Most necessary thing ever. I had no one to blame. My life is my responsibility. Admit your wrong. God deserves better. My wife deserves better. The pain I caused her is immeasurable. Seeing her name in blogs because of things I did broke my soul. So since I was the cause of public embarrassment, let me be JUST AS LOUD ABOUT PUBLIC HONOR. Aventer you are a miracle to me. I am sorry for the pain I have caused you. You name should have NEVER come up in any conversation in any negative way with anyone ever. I must do the work to earn your trust. I’ve lived a life I’m not proud of in so many areas, but before I die, I will be the man God intended and the husband that Your heart can rest with. I’ll be the father my kids can be proud of. I’ll be the pastor Relentless can stand behind. I’m in the process and I will stay in it. May the man I am becoming match the vision God showed you. I love you.

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28 comments:

Unknown said...

Stop cheating fat ass. This is like the 3rd damn time you humiliated your wife publicly over some hoes. I can guarantee if she cheated on you, your fat ass would kick her to the curb with no forgiveness. These Christian pastors full of shit.

The King Of The Real said...

He just a lying swindler who is a sexual degenerate. He why does the black community keep falling for these pork chop preachers who can't even do the basic effort of just being a decent person much less trying to represent a religious faith steeped in archaic judgment that somehow requires you 5o give home money to be in his clique. This is the root of black peoples problem. The very root. Freaking idiots. They still gonna ride or die to be seen. At least this one wasn't a predator or am I speaking to soon?

Anonymous said...

Who are these desperate females that are creeping with this dude. Not enough money in the world to make me!!! I can say never on that. He look like he smell and constantly sweaty. NO THANK YOU!!

Anonymous said...

THREE DAM TIMES!!! I remember hearing about the first but haven't kept up since then. Uncle IT, needs to have his Pee Pee baptized in the name of the Weenie Gods.

Anonymous said...

3 times means THIS IS WHO YOU ARE!!!! Stop the lies.

DaisyDooks said...

Gimme five on the black-hand side, The King of the Real!!!

"Weenie Gods" <---I can't...! You're funny, @9:23am.


Anonymous said...

Sir, this sounds good and it even may impress some people into believing you have well meaning intentions, but until you figure out why you did what you did, you will probably do it again and again and again. I hope you're truly getting help because the last thing a woman wants is her husband crushing her spirit, especially one who supports her husband and fights his battles so viciously.

Be well.

NiyabinghiWerewolfObeahWoman said...

Pastor porchop looks just like the filthy pig he is. I can't wait till my people collectively, break the spell of religious indoctrination, and stop giving these devils hiding behind the cloth false prophet charlatans, their time, energy and money. These snake oil salemen/women are pulpit pimps, who prey on weak minded individual too weak to break this religious stronghold on their minds, the fact that religion was used to imprison our peoples mind and emotions, makes this shit all the more vomit inducing. I can't believe my people still partake of this fuckery.

Unknown said...

AGAIN?

Anonymous said...

This fool ain't gonna have any more coins if he keeps it up. Even though Tarjay is always hiring, he doesn't look like he has the energy to keep up.

R in NYC said...

These snakes in the pulpit need to get the hell on. God is going to deal with him accordingly when the times comes. These fools have not learned anything from what happened to Bishop Eddie Longstroke. Be sure your sin will find you out.

SnookumsLynn said...

ugh, he forever apologizing, but stay in some bullshit...I cannot! I hate men like him, especially he is supposed to be some enlightened fool with some spiritual knowledge...no fuck him, he's a man and out here acting as such, I hate men that act like this, I bet he's a big ass bowl of manipulation on a daily

Anonymous said...

All I want to know is how many nasty STD"S has his sloppy, fat, bad body built ass gave his wife. I'm sick of her also. He's going to keep cheating.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if he and his wife were to divorce if his church members would remain loyal to him?

Yes, I'm That Leah said...

She might not believe in divorce, or, he might have some money? She doesn't want to give up her "first lady" title? They are probably not sleeping in the same bedroom...there's no way she's sleeping with that. There's a reason why she stays and doesn't care. She's not emotionally attached anymore....

Anonymous said...

tl;dr the lies.

Anonymous said...

His message is very well written i am impressed but nobody believes it....

Anonymous said...

So since he is apologizing for embarrassing her by putting out something else that will embarrass her. I pray sincerely that she heals from this. Been there. It leaves scars. But at least he is trying and admitting he is the problem.

Qbevonne67 said...

He said this the last time what over a year ago and he brought her a Bentley as a forgiveness gift! Ain’t nothing Godly or religious or spiritual about these kinds of people, except wickedness, greed and slothfulness!

Don balee me juh watch said...

She looks like she is not even there. As long as that money is flowing she’ll just play the part.

Anonymous said...

This is ironic because Oprah has given him a platform on her shows for him to counsel folks in spiritual depression. That's had to do when you need the help also.

Danae said...

Snitch can we get a lil BRB post? This horny hungry hippo staring at us like a pork chop dinner and it's unsettling to my spirit.

chevychick said...

This dude ain't got nothin to say, let his God deal with him accordingly, this man's mind is corrupt, so much so that it shows on his face, he is sick, he's got some work to do, or not, whatever, but uh, Snitch, where are you, on vacation, you caught the "rona"? Wussup? This dude has been the most recent topic for too many days.

Anonymous said...

8:14 I said last week something weird is going on with this site.

Queen said...

Ughhh EVERYTHING OK HERE?? Snitch where you at??? Damn now I gotta go to Sandra Rose page😞

ATLalien said...

@the king of the real...this has nothing to do with Black preachers. Justin Bieber's White pastor just was busted for the same thing. What we fail to realize is these are just "men", regardless of color. Never place a man of God on a pedestal. They will fail you every time.

The King Of The Real said...

@ATLalien You right.

Anonymous said...

WOMP! WOMP! THAT'S ALL I GOT BECAUSE SHE'S NOT GOING ANYWHERE AND HE WILL BE IN THIS SAME PLACE AGAIN.

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